My best friend hates me

I know it’s hard, but your relaionship is beginning to sound like it’s a little one sided (or Narcissistic/Dependent in couples therapy terms). No one who cares about you should compare your friendship to owning a dog…

Until you let go of this “I cant live without you” attitude, odds are she’s not going to come back. All the whining and the begging and the pleading wont work.

And think about it for a second, do you want to be friends with someone who treats you like dirt or someone who feels obligated to talk to you?

I know life without her seems dark indeed, but what would life be with someone like that who controlled everything you did? Who knew that you would do anything if she didnt leave? That isnt a healthy relationship and quite frankly no one is happy when they’re in such an imbalanced relationship. People like to feel they’re giving as much as they’re taking in a real relationship…

I am not saying you should abandon hope for your friendship. I am just saying for now, you need to learn to function without her. Talk to new people, talk to old friends (people are amazingly forgiving). Reassure yourself that life can continue without her. Offer to pay for the phone. After that, dont call her, dont do anything for a bit. If you see her, say hi, be polite, but leave it at that. And gradually she may come around. I’ve always loved this expression “how can I miss you if you wont go away?”. Try it… She may miss you and decide that she likes being friends with you afterall…

(god it so wierd for someone to call me ‘dude’, that’s what I normally call everyone else lol! which is funny, because’ im 31 lol)

anyway, I’m a little concerned that you screwed up all your other friendships to be friends with her…how did that happen? why did they not like her?

any sort of pysical harm to yourself is not a good idea…I’m 31, and I have had some amazing friends, and still do, but the only thing I have ever valued above my own life, is that of my childrens…really, and I’m married!

as for being friends with her again, is there anyone who can act as a mediator? find out what her problem is? I don’t think, honestly, that if she was a ‘true’ friend, a mobile phone would have broken you up, there must have been problems before and the accident just exaserbated it…

there is no ‘magic fix’ that anyone can tell, you all you can do is at best, try to find the root of the problem and go from there, I honestly don’t think that an accidental phone incdent would have been the be all and end all…

to loose a friendship is very very hard, but there are some golden rules that you need to accept in life;

1. friendships change, because ‘we’ do. we may not lke it, but we can’t stay the same forever. you friend may be angry at you, she may say spiteful things…which leads to number..

2. not everyone will like you. can you imagine if the whole world liked each other, we were all the same and we never changed? it’s not realistic is it? as such, if your friend really is being this vile, just accept it’s over. you will loose a lot of things in your life, its all about how you learn to cope with it.

if you have offered to replace the phone etc, said sorry, theres little more you can do. and if she’s being spiteful maybe she needs to grow up too. accidents happen all the time, but if it’s not on purpose theres little to be done…

don’t worry. as I say, IF you have offered her a new phone, apologised etc, then LEAVE it! start finding new friends and one day, when she grows up, she’ll get over it…

well she wasnt a true friend is she calls you irritating and just dumps you like that friends put up with stuff. thats why your bestfriends because they can put up with all your stuff unlike some who can only put up w/ a little

She doen’t have your interest at heart. She is not a true friend. I know its had to accept that you just lost her like that but you have to move on. Don’t do anything stupid for someone that doesn’t care about you because it will earn you nothing but pain.

she obviously doesnt value your frienship, she doesn’t care about you, she is not a friend. shes over you get over her and stop being annoying, trying to still be friends when shes sick of you is irritating.

dude! she meant the world to me man!…I can kill myself at the moment..I screwed up all my freindships to be freinds with her..and now she dumped m elike anything..I can jump off my dad’s balcony..cut my hand off,punch my hand through a glass window to become best freinds with her again..I really dont know how to get her back..can someone help me out with..please tell me how to become bestfreinds with her again..she hates me now..hates me like nething..evn deleted me from her facebook freind list..she avoids me in school like anything..I can et her a new phone..I guess she wont take it ..anyways thanks for helping me…

dude! she meant the world to me man!…I can kill myself at the moment..I screwed up all my freindships to be freinds with her..and now she dumped m elike anything..I can jump off my dad’s balcony..cut my hand off,punch my hand through a glass window to become best freinds with her again..I really dont know how to get her back..can someone help me out with..please tell me how to become bestfreinds with her again..she hates me now..hates me like nething..evn deleted me from her facebook freind list..she avoids me in school like anything..I can et her a new phone..I guess she wont take it ..anyways thanks for helping me…