How do you move on and let go of failure, regrets, mistakes, and things you're not proud of? I don't feel very well, I failed at college and my parents are disappointed in me. I just want to feel better. Any tips/advice would be appreciated. Thanks
One of the first things you have to do is realize that we ALL makes mistakes. We all have done things in our lives that we aren't proud of. So you are definitely not the only one who has messed up or disappointed someone. It's natural. It's how we learn. Don't beat yourself over it. You are human and you make mistakes. Forgive yourself.
Failing at college, as you said, isn't the end of the world. It might simply mean that it's not for you. And that is okay, despite what you're parents might think. Heck, my brother tried it and dropped out. It wasn't for him. Doesn't mean that he won't be successful. In fact, he's more successful than I am. And I'm the one with the college degree. Go figure.
You just have to figure out what you're good at and go with it. You don't necessarily need a college degree to validate your skills, abilities, etc. And believe me, your parents STILL love you. Regardless! In time they will get over it and things will be okay. You just have to give them some time. That's all.
As far as getting over it and moving on. Well, that's exactly what it's about. Letting go and moving forward. You've acknowledged that whatever you did was a mistake and you feel sorry that you've did it. So basically you are aware of why it was a mistake and you've learned from it. Don't try to suppress your feelings, the way your mistakes/regrets are making you feel. Because they will come back out to bite you if you do. Instead, talk or write about it- the more the better- let it out of your system and you will overcome it. Trust me, it works. Suppressing it does not.
Once you've let go of those negative feelings you'll be able to move forward with a clear mind. Which will allow you to make better decisions. Best of luck to you!
Thank you so much!
My pleasure :)