how can i tell my mom to stop planning my future?

she decides who i am going to marry,what my career is,what i will name my kids,and how many kids i am going to have,etc.

Answer #1

I know how you feel… really. I got so very annoyed when she made me meet the man of her choice. At that point I just said NO, I WILL NOT DO THAT. I told my mother at that time when I was still in college that i did not want to hurt her feeling, but she got to accept whatever I choose for my life. I just asked her to let me know or to warn my if at anytime I am endangering myself. But for husband or my kids name, she got to let it go. I did not want to bargain.

Answer #2

go lesbian. she wont see that coming :D

Answer #3

tell your mum that you have decided who you are marrying tell her it’s your gay best pal, worked for me…:)

Answer #4

This is different, but… Have you considered using the Bach flower remedy called Agrimony? It might be perfect for you.

Your mother sounds like she needs the one called Chicory… bad. :)

There’s an outstanding book out called New Bach Flower Therapies, by Dietmar Kramer. I think it’s on Amazon, and maybe the library. You should check it out. If you read the entry on Chicory I think you’d be astounded at some of the things that passage reveals about both you and your mother (because the author talks about how Chicory people tend to treat their children).

I hope that helps.

Answer #5

Just tell her. Have a mother/daughter talk with her. How old are u, anyway? Funmail me.

Answer #6

LoL…

Answer #7

It’s funny how a lot of people like this answer

Answer #8

wow haha :)

Answer #9

Who cares if she plans stuff? That’s what parents do, they plan for your future. No one is saying you have to do what she says. You have to learn is how to pick your battles. Exactly who is it hurting if your mother is going on about your future. Smile and say, ‘ok mum’. And then ignore her and do whatever you’re doing.

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