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what do you do when your mom has chosen a man over her kids
You tell her how you feel and give her one more chance. (if she chooses him) Then you must realize that she has problems with men and not to take it out on her. There are many women in the world who feel the need to be dependent upon a man no matter what---even if it means her kids. Sad but true. You cant blame her though, she is not in a good place right now. She has develloped this over time and its too difficult for a young girl to make her see the light. The best thing to do is to remind her everyday that you love her and that the door is always open for her to choose you. I would also nudge her to get therapy. Your mom is a good person. We are all good people, its society and the fear and the anger, etc. that do not allow us to our full potential. Still love her. For you, you need to realize that if you do not have a fully supportive mother, that you are in need of some sort of other strong female role model who can mentor you. It can be a neighbor, a teacher, your guidance counselor, etc. just someone who you can talk to. Tonight, you should make a list of all the things you would like to accomplish in your life and begin. By not having a fully supportive mother, you must take action and help yourself realize all the amazing things you would like to do in life.
If she does choose you and realizes that she messed up...well then you are in the clear!!
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emma
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Don't sell your mom short. She has a need for adult male companionship just as you have a need for companionship with your friends. It doesn't mean that you chose your friends over your mother and it doesn't mean that your mother is choosing him over her children.
If hers is a new relationship, she may be having difficulty dividing her time between the relationship and her children. She may not even be aware of this. You might try CALMLY sitting down with her and explain to her that you children are feeling a little slighted. DON'T try to make her choose between him and the children. Simply explain that you all would like to be included a little more.
Parents aren't perfect, especially single moms. Give her a break and the benefit of the doubt.
Well, first of all you have to decide if she has really chose him over you, or if you are just jealous of the time that she is spending with him. Remember that your mom is a woman and probably misses the company of a man. It would be extremely selfish for you to not want her to be with someone until you are grown. She could have lost her soulmate by then. Also, once you are gone she would still be by herself, and you wouldn't want that. Also remember that if the relationship is new that she will want to spend more time with him at that time. Try to see if you all can do more things together either out somewhere or at the house. That way she can spend time with the guy she likes and the kids she LOVES. Good luck.
You need to tell her how you feel, if you already have and nothing seems to have changed, you should ask her to attend family counselling with you. A professional can help both sides see what's really going on. Another idea could be talking to a neutral family member like a grandparent or uncle.
you sit her down and talk to her, and tell her how you feel, tell her you miss her, miss spending time with her and that ever since she's met this guy it feels like you aren't important to her anymore...ect - speak your heart out!
you love her and you pray for her
