I KNOW ITS LONG LOL BUT PLEASE READ IT aha.
NO i dont want to tell her "I hate Craig, mom". I just didnt know how else to word the title.
I dont know what to do. Im not going to list all the different reasons why Im beggining to hate him..I just NEED to tell my Mom SOMETHING about it so maybe she can hint to him or something whats ok and whats not..But. I know Im 14 and I cant tell my parents whats ok and whats not, they know best and I have no right, but there ARE limits.
My Mom doesnt seem to get that..She thinks its totally unneceptable for me to say anything about how they parent or if im against something theyve done or told me, that its disrespectful. And it is in certain circumstances. But not mine. I just moved in with them from my actual Dads house and in with my Mum and her Boyfriend/husband, so were all going through some growing pains here, and its all new for all of us. They want me to completley change myself to suit their needs and everything, but they dont do their part.
I was wondering if you have any advice as to something I could say to my Mom that isnt in any way rude, disrespectful or upsetting. Ive tried normal conversations, so things like "Just sit down and talk with her and be honest with her" wont work. And believe me there is NO possiblility of talking to Craig about it haha.
Im sorry if I sound like a rebellious teenager or a ungrateful brat, or an overdramatic teen going through a phase. but my situation incredibly frustrating. Thanks. & Please reply lol.
When you have some alone time with your mom, I would tell her straight up how you feel about this whole situation. Don't be rude about it, but show her how much this is all affecting and hurting you. Tell her that you love her and you're not trying to be disrespectful or anything, but there are things that Craig does that is NOT okay (you should elaborate on that). Tell her how you often feel like they want you to change yourself in order to suit their needs, and that you're really starting to get tired of it (maybe suggest a compromise?). I know you said to not tell you to, "Just sit down and talk with her and be honest with her", but I really think that that is exactly what you should do - be honest. I know how that can be super hard, and it's clear that you don't want to cause any trouble, but being honest doesn't necessarily mean that you're being rude or anything. As long as you sound genuine, then you're fine! I'm sure your mom will appreciate your sincerity. If you feel that writing all of your feelings/concerns on a letter would be more effective, then do that instead, and then give it to her.
Why do you hate him? Could it be you're not giving him a chance because he's sort of replacing your dad? Is he trying to be a "dad?" Does he feel threathened by your relationship with your mom? It's always really hard with a step-parent, and to make it get to a bearable point, both sides usually have to give a little.
What are the main areas of your stress with him? Maybe we can sort that out here then you can take something reasonable to your mom... because you're right - "I hate Craig" isn't nearly as effective as, (for example) "Mom, i feel weird when Craig tells me to get off my lazy behind and help with the dishes so if he can treat me like an adult, then I will be more willing to help around the house..."
i would tell her the truth , sit down with her and tell her how you feel i dont know whats going on exactly so all i can say is you have the right idea to just sit down and be honest because shes your mom so she should listen to you .just dont be rude about it tell her you dont appriciate the things he does , if your polite about it chances are she wont get mad & shell hear you out
I really appreciate your answer. The thing is she already knows things he does arent ok, and she kinda hints to him about them but she definitley doesnt really give it an effort. She knows Im struggling too and we have a very honest and open relationship-or atleast we used to before we began to fight. But anyways thank you very much for the answer :)
No I dont feel threatened by him or anything, my parents split up when I was at a very young age and Ive known him since I was 4 years old so thats nothing new.