Love 50/50

hii, I’m 17 as is my boyfriend. we’ve been together for 1 years and 5 months, I’m in love with him… we fight non-stop but I can’t leave him. I basically live with him and his family. he’s a control freak basically. you know the saying too much of a good thing isn’t so great… its true. all he wants is sex - I don’t. its gotten boring. before I met him I was going throu a rough patch, he was there for me, so we started going out. I was a lively girl, always out and about with friends and family… now im not allowed out with mates, if im at home for too long he gets aggy with me-its as if im a married woman and im not! money is tight…so he helps me out. I love him but am I with him for the wrong reasons? there is this other guy, hes wonderful… understands me and loves me for me… I have feelings for him but I can’t leave my boyfriend. I’m tired of being treated badly, I know I could do and get better, but I’m scared to be without him. he lives in the next road to me hints why I’m always round there and not home. what happens if I leave him and me and my mate don’t work out? I would have made a huge mistake! please help me… I probably havent written this very well as there is soo much but please try and help. thnkyou

Answer #1

Well, long story short, a lot of girls go through what you are describing! I went through the same crap… I was with my ex for 3 years before I got up enough nerve to leave him… Like you said, while I was with him, there was this awesome guy that I was attracted to in a way… Well, I wound up getting married to him, and now im very happy! Look its up to you, when you want to get out! If you think you love him, one day it will come to you that what he is doing is not right, and you should’nt be treated like that! No one deserves that! I was forced to live with my ex in his moms trailer for 2 years! He beat me and said things that made me feel like I was nothing, it took me a while to gain my confidence back up! It was not healthy at all… He would beat the crap out of me, everytime he got mad, he would say that I deserved it. Well, now im recovering from the past I went through, and my husband is helping me! Its been 2 years since then, and im still not completely confident.. Look, its up to you, but like you, he helped me through some bad stuff, but it all weighed out to him being bad… If you want to talk to anyone hit me up, I have lots more that I could say but its not everyones business…

Answer #2

Dear gurlwiithloveproblems, You need to read what you wrote…you are not in love with this guy but feel obligated to him. You don’t owe him anything and it’s time to get out. He is abusing you and you are taking it. Since you are there all the time do we assume things are not going well in your own home? I think it’s time to get your life on track. You are 17 old enough to be proactive in your own life. Stop relying on him for support…either fix things at home or move out and get a job and your own place. You need to speak with a counsellor about why you’re afraid to leave this guy. Is it really worse in your own home? We will date, love and have relationships with many people in a life time because we should know when to move on…we should never, ever feel obligated to be with someone. Sue…good luck

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