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Please read this whole thing Ok im so confused! I need help! Ok so my ex ... I dated him last year and we broke up because he thought I was cheating on him (wich I wasnt) but a year later we realized that we both still have a lot of feelings for each other and he told me that the day I was switching schools and I may only be 14 and this may sound crazy but I really do love him and I know its love and im really mature for my age trust me every one tells me that like adults. But I cant drive and so I dont see him much and my life is crazy like I have to make all new friends and me and my parents get in screaming fights and right now hes the only stable thing in my life... I think I would die without him... But I dont know how to do this long distance thing and weve talkd about this many times and we both arent wanting a long distance relationship but I cant let go of him. And I really dont know what to do
Love doesn't just happen once like people say. You need to learn how to make yourself the only stable thing in your life. Even if you do love him you are to young to have learned how to be an independent person yet. Don't get serious with a guy until you've learned how to survive on your own. You won't die without him and the next time you find love it will be better so long as you don't stay stuck in the past. I've known a lot of women and I know that you are capable of anything. My mother raised me alone and I have a lot of respect for that. No one will ever respect you until you are capable of being alone and love doesn't happen right without respect.
14 is a maturing age, but Hun, you havent been around long enough to experience life. The love you feel now, is NOT the love you will feel 6 years from now. You cant rely on someone else for happiness. It has to come from within. Long distance relationships are tough, and even tougher for young teens. Go out and make new friends, because at this point you have no other choice. You cant plan on how your future is going be. Its called fate. If things are meant to be with you & him, then you will be together, but for now, you have to accept how things are, and make the best of it. You arent going to get anywhere feeling sorry for yourself.
You probably dont want to hear this but at 14 this is just one of many times you are going to be in love. Moving is a traumatic event in anyone's life but especially in someone your age. I went to 4 different high schools in 3 different states so I do remember what it was like. He might seem like the only stable thing in your life right now but that will change if you just give the new place and new people a chance. You dont have to rush into any decisions about anything at this point. Just take your time and get to know your new surroundings and give all the new people a chance to become friends with you.
