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Is this OK at a funeral?

I went to my classmate, Natasha’s funeral a week ago. I felt really sad, but I wasn’t feeling sad because of her passing away, I was feeling sad because so many people were crying and had red around their eyes etc. There was a sad aura. Is that OK?

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Answer #1

Everyone grieves differently - it may be later that the grief of your classmate affects you…Take care !!

Answer #2

OK.

Answer #3

It is perfectly OK for you not to cry for someone you don’t know. My aunt Laurna died a while ago and I didn’t know her very well but I cried for an hour. It just means you are sensitive to other people’s feelings and you should be liked for that!

Answer #4

I felt the same way. Everyone looked so sad.

Answer #5

Yup.. you’re just being honest. Lets face it, being at a funeral is pretty surreal. The older I get, the more funerals I go to.. sigh. And I always think, this is the one day when all the people who the deceased knew are finally here in a place together, and the guest of honor is missing. I find that heartbreaking.

Answer #6

if you werent very close to her, then it is ok not to be completley broken down. it is actually very nice that you were crying for those people… so in a way you WERE crying for Natasha… weren’t you?

Answer #7

I know how you feel! Its an odd feeling… I was in 7th grade. And it felt like at the funeral I was only sad because people were crying. But on my own time like a week later I cried because I realized I was never going to see my friend again. It just took me a little while longer to kick in then it took others.

Answer #8

Thanks everyone

Answer #9

There is no right or “ok” way to feel… dont worry about it, people feel different things when people die…