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I know this girl, were not particuly close in the manner of hanging out all the time, or at all for that matter. We've become "online" friends for sometime now. We do seem to have a lot in common (although I find it hard to tell when she is not acting fake and copying me). We are young mothers (pretty much the same age), our children are the same age. We're both engaged to be married, in school, in the process of buying our first homes, grew up in the same area's, know some of the same people, get the same stereo types, even the same height, and weight!!
I've noticed it was getting more than personal awhile back between us, but hold my tongue, because after all I don't want to act like a crazy person, considering we don't know eachother in the real world.
She "says" she is not a jealouse person through countless statements( not directed towards me) but she is ALWAYS copying EVERYTHING I do or say, it's seriously ridiculas and is NOT just in my head. My jaw literally drops now when I see the extent she will go to, to somehow be over me in any way!!!
It's been going on for a long time now, I will give you some examples of what she does. Me & her are close in the aspect where we know a lot about eachother, we used to send long e-mails often, share idea's on topics, see our lives through pictures... Anyways She has been engaged (so she says) for 2 year now. My now Fiance proposed to me 2 months ago. All my family and friends were wishing me well, and happy for me. She didn't wish me well ONCE congratulate me or nothing. Instead 2 hours after prosing my satus to everyone, she changes starts ranting about her wedding details, bragging unbelievably about her love for her fiance, when she never brough her upcomming wedding once since I posted my engagement. Still to this day 2 months later she is still going full force into it.
Another case was, I write blogs about my life, ideas, plans ect. I stated we were building our home in the summer of 2011. The next day she started ranting how they were building their home in the summer of 2010, she even wants to SAME floor plan for god sake.
I had the same hairstyle for a while now, I often get good comments on it. Yesterday, she posted pictures of her "new" hair do(her old style was way differnt than mine), and it was EXACTLY like mine. The way she parted it in the middle, the length, color, right down to the exact amount of highlights!!
I will take pictures of my home, because I have many family away who l don't see often, and like to see how my life is going. I gave my whole home a make-over with paint, and some furniture. The next week, she painted her rooms the EXACT colors I painted mine, even had the same furniture in the same place.!!!
My Tv recently broke down, so I made a statement how we are out shopping for a new one. I came home later that night after setting it up, I sat down and logged in, and noticed her status saying her and her hubby are going to get a new tv (10 inchs bigger of course) the following day.
It's just little things like this, she is constantly doing it, and it is really bugging me! . I feel like she thinks were in a competition to see who is better in every aspect, and I hate it... she just does not seem to stop!!! I've even tried to make it obviouse how I feel through statements... but she just steps up this "competition?" (which I have no idea where came from!!!?)
I personally am not a jealouse person, I want to see over all of that. I wish her well all of the time, comment good on her happiness, good looks, and her blessings. But she NEVER ever gives me any credit for anything anymore, but rather just continues to copy all of my plans, ideas, even freaking photo poses.
She ALWAYS makes sure everyone knows how much her and her fiance are in love, how she is the best mother in the world, brags about all this money she supposably "has" When I know comming from a happy, very much in love family, life is not that perfect. People argue, fight, are cranky, have sad day... but not her she "acts" like super women.
Anyways I guess I just want to know how I can get it through to her to end this "competition", and to STOP copying me, without seeming like a crazy person. I KNOW for a fact even through she doesn't "let on" that she notices me, or pays much attention to me, that she is clicking through my stuff ever 20 mins of the day, it's obviouse, I can even find freaken proof!!!
Please tell me what you think?!
I think she's actually a really miserable person. If she has to lie to make herself seem amazing and all that, then there's something wrong. Either she's a little bit messed up in the head, or she's really just trying to get attention because she's miserable.
