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I broke up with my exboyfriend about 41/2months ago. We were together 6 years and we spent a year apart before this last break because I felt the relationship wasn't going anywhere. After 3years he was talking marriage and was even looking at engagement rings but then the talk stopped. After the first breakup about 4 months later I met someone who was interested in me and we began dating for almost a year off and on but this man did not believe I was over my exboyfriend. My ex was still phoning me asking for another chance and telling me how much he loves me. So eventually me and the other guy went are seperate ways and I was reunited with my ex boyfriend. After 2months in the relationship, I broke it off again because nothing had changed and we did not resolve are issues, I felt I lost my attraction for him. A month after the break up he started seeing another girl and now has moved in with her. I found this out when I phoned him one day to see how he was doing and he answered the phone by calling her name because he thought it was her calling him right back. I learnt that he started to see her and he claimed that he was over me and that she wants a comitted relationship. He told me that they were intimate and that he sleeps over at her apartment. Since I told him he must move on, he surely moved on rather quickly but before we broke up he was still telling me how much he loves me and that we could work it out. Is that a rebound relationship? It hurts me to know that he has someone new because I never stopping loving him its just that I wanted more seen that I invested 6years in the relationship. I'm I wrong to want that? Do you think his love for me is completeley gone now that he is with this new woman or this his way to get over the hurt of our relationship?
Dear lovelee35, What does it matter if he is on the rebound, if this is his way of getting over you, or if he has feelings still for you...It's over. When a couple is together and they break up every now and then...this is a red flag; if you are unable discuss and get through problems without breaking up you will never be able to handle events that come with a committed relationship. We love many people in our lifetime but they are not all the ones we'll be forever committed to. This man has moved on, so should you. There is no need to call each other, email or keep in touch. The relationship is over and he was never the right one for you. Sue...good luck
sweetheart its not a question of him being over you,you need to make up your mind whether you have wasted 20years of your life or not,its your decision! if you want to be your exbyfriend doormat go ahead and worry about what he is doing,but you will never be happy and you will never meet that special someone who will love,respect and treat you as you are beautiful,intelligent and precious!
