is it ok to be insecure?

I recently lost a child and got out a abuseive relationship I kept getting cheating on and hit and everything and getting called fat and im recovering from ana anyways so wtf!! my new boyfriend is a star he has helped me ever so much doesnt look at other women then rub it in my face saying there cuter than you ect… but I keep thinking that some times when I say the wrong thing he is going to hit me and whack me with belts I no he wont but theres a little voice in my head that keeps telling me please help me

Answer #1

Of cause’ its natural to feel insecure. Everyone feels insecure. =) If I were in your shoes, I would definately feel the same. You just need time to open up again. Your boyfriend surely knows about your past aye? He will understand. =) Don’t worry too much about it k? Time is what you need.

I’m so sorry that you to hear about your son and the past experience you had.

xx

Answer #2

It’s ok to feel insecure and it’s normal, I mean you just got out of an abusive relationship. Speak to your boyfriend about how you feel and maybe seek out a counselor to help you deal with these feelings and start doing somethings for yourself (I.e. join a gym, take some dancing classes etc etc. to boost your confidence and for you to have some personal time too)

Answer #3

If he doesnt hit you or anything, I don’t think he will if you say the wrong thing. maybe an argument or disagreement. he seems to nice to hittin you ect..

Answer #4

with your past experience of course its gonna be programed in to you that you should feel that way. BUT. dont appear weak. id say. if you thnk hes the bullying dominant type. keep your head up if he threats you or trys to dominate you. and stand your ground. but the moment he does any thing like that get out of it sweety. you deserve better. Negative energies draw to negative ones. like its just gonna be drawn to you till you change your perspective. Try to be strong even when you think your not. MENTALLY strong. dont let a man lay a hand on you. if hes ever done anything like that before to you or VERBABLY abuses you get out. it always starts verbably. just be safe. and dont be afraid to get out before it becomes to late to.

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