How do i not insult my stylist?

no offense but thats really not helpful…

Just dye it before your app then say you didn’t think you suited it or sometime.

Did you pay her or is she doing you a favor? Because if you paid her, whether she spent an hour or 10 on your hair, she’s not doing you any favors. It is like any other business transaction. She does a job and you pay her for that job. If you are unhappy with that job, you ask for it to be changed. Now I have my own issues with assertiveness, so I do understand where you are coming from. But, really you should have explained the problem while you were in the salon and told her what you wanted done differently. Now that it’s too late for that, feel free to fix it. And explain to her that what you’ve done is what you were looking for in the first place. She’s not a mind reader. Why should she be upset over a misunderstanding? Oh, and you really need to learn to be more assertive. If you’re stressing out about your hairdresser’s feelings, I can only imagine what else you’re constantly stressing out about and other ways you allow people to walk all over you (even in situations like this when they dont even know they’re doing it!)

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Wow you pegged me 100% wrong. I am a very aggressive person. Thats why I asked advice on how not to insult her. I decided a week and a half later that the colors just did not suit me. Its a great style just too much color for me. And yes I paid her, it was not a favor.

Aggression also stems from the same basic issue. An inability to communicate assertively. You’ve answered your own question though. ‘Its a great style just too much color for me’ sounds about right.

Maybe you could dye it yourself, and say you were experimenting before your app to see what you want? :>

ha. I guess I did. Thanks for pointing that out!

Find a diff one?

nah I like my stylist. Plus its the only salin out here that does vibrant colirs and my.kind of hair cut.

Did you tell her what you wanted exactly.. She may have not understanded you. Maybe call the place and tell her, and tell her you dont want to offend her. Its her job, she should do it right.

If you go back to her and talk about it, she may be a bit put out, but it will be better than doing it yourself. I’m a hairdresser and I’d rather a displeased client comes straight to me with the problem rather than trying to fix it behind my back. She should think about the problem and come up with an idea to fix it. If she is pi$sed at you for not liking what she did, then she shouldn’t be a hairdresser.

its not that I dont like it. it looks rad. Its just too much color for my taste. I decided to leave it be and just go in on oct 8th for my app. And just tell her I want the sides dark and only a small bit of pink and purple on the top.