Why am I so insecure?

Im always afriad that people are talking about me, or that the ones i care about are suddely going to turn on me,or that i worry about little things too much, and i take jokes way to seriously. and i know its fumb to be like that, but i cant help it. to tell you honestly, i dont want to be like that, i want to be a free spirit and have fun! but i cant bring myself to do it. im constanly worrying and i wish i could stop. how do i stop?

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Answer #1

When you find out, let me know.

Answer #2

Just stop caring my friend did now he has no insecurities and is super happy but is a complete ass. Have you ever been bullied, used, or had people degrade you through your life? If so that’s why you are probably insecure because you are afraid it will happen again so any relationship you have friendship aquitence boyfriend ect. You feel as if they will hurt you again. With constant negativity in your life you tend to have a mindset that you aren’t that good which causes insecurities. I use to be really insecure because people degraded me so I felt that I deserved to be that way and felt like people were always going to hurt me. As I began to trust myself and other I became more confident hopefully you can to. Sorry for my rambling

Answer #3

same here…im getting better though…all you need to do is cool off…dont worry…fill out some confedence sheets, read them later on and do as it says u should do…smile….be happy…have a nice beautiful looonnggg vacation this summer. Try something different. like different restaraunts, food, test out your fashion sense…learn something new like a sport or language. find a cool hobby. hang out with your friends more often. Relax. If people DO talk about you behind your back or turn on on you or hate on you put it behind you…life’s too short to worry…if some people hate you who cares….they aren’t you. I used to be the most insecure, shy, quietest thing on earth since i moved here. NOW, i’m much better.

Answer #4

just give it some time and chilax B)

Answer #5

stop caring of what people think of you just be yourself.

Answer #6

as easy as it sounds to just simply “stop caring” its clearly a lot easier said than done.. i used to be VERY insecure about myself.. until i sat back and realized all the past events that made me insecure.. and thinking about all the people that made fun of me and talked down on me. i had to look at the people who were doing these things and figure out why they were doing it. for one they could most likely be jealous of you or simply because their lives suck and they are also very insecure and they dont want the attention on them. keep your head up and always attempt to find a positive outcome to every situation.

Answer #7

what do you mean by insecure?