I want to be with my ex boyfriend but he doesn't feel the same way

I met this guy in January and we were friends for about six months we ended up dated and everything was going great. we had our first breakup around Christmas but only lasted a couple of days. from then on we would argue about little things like where were you, why did you miss my call.I messed around with a guy when we were broken up he was mad and didn’t want to be with meabout six months later we got a little abusive. I started going to see a counselor because I knew I was acting this way because I had seen my father be this way and I realized that I didn’t want to be like that.he doesn’t understand my childhood and I try to make him but he didn’t have it like I did.we tried to take a break,swear not to talk and treat each other disrespectful.I want us to go to couples counseling till we can learn how to understand one another but he says no we won’t get anywhere we will end up the same way.I begged him to be with me and he says no he doesn’t want to fight and I say well lets try this since we havent and change for the better.I call him and cry and he gets frustrated with me and says he will call me later but we never get back together he just says it wont work out.WHAT SHOULD I DO???? I keep thinking he will call me and says lets make it work but he doesn’t.