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My entire life I have always been as loyal as the day is long. I might be having a mid-life crisis (I'm 47), but my mind has been consumed the past few weeks of having a passionate love affair. My husband loves me desperately, but more and more I think I am staying with him more out of loyalty than love. He is diabetic and cannot maintain an erection long enough to have intercourse. Also, his idea of a passionate night is talking dirty and an x-rated movie--which are definetely NOT my idea of a good time. Consequently, we very rarely have sex anymore. I've tried talking to him about how unhappy I am and have suggested counseling, but he doesn't care about listening or getting help. Until a few weeks ago, giving up sex didn't seem so bad, but I've come to realize that I am too young to give up sex and passion. Just once I would like to have a passion filled night with a hunk. I want to feel beautiful and desireable. I've never cheated, so I wouldn't know a thing about how to go about it anyway, but I've started looking at men as possible lovers. Am I insane? Is there anyway for me to go back to my previous sex-less, unsatisfied self before I do something I might regret?