Home More advice Parents & Family
Hi, my wife and I are in our mid thirties, financially secure (or as secure as anyone can be in this crazy world) and have been taking steps to start a family. After a couple of months of trying I got home from work tonight and my wife told me that she doesn't want kids! She says she is worried that a baby will cause problems in our relationship (my wife can get stressed easily) and she is also worried that our lifestyle will change too much. I'v ejust been for a walk and had a good cry and now trying to make sense of all of this... Can anyone help!? Thanks
Well, a baby will change things...but what your wife has to understand is that having a child can complete your family. There is no greater love than that between a mother and child...I wouldn't give my kids up for anything. I just wish she could experience it for a day, then all her doubts would be gone.
If she doesn't have a child (and I know many couples that don't), she just may resent it later on when it's too late.
If all else fails, you can adopt some years from now when she mellows down a bit. Some people just aren't mentally ready to care fro a child(though I was born when my parents were in their twenties, after being married for two years, and things turned out fine).
