16 and I've gotten my girlfriend pregnant, what to do?

firstly, I just want to commend you on taking resposibility for your actions. there are plenty of prgrams for teens in your situation. I would look on the internet, its your best bet.

First of all I want to applaud your bravery at facing this new life head on. I am myself a teen mother and I chose not to get an abortion because it seems somehow so selfish and wrong to end a life to make your own less complicated. The most important issue is making sure that 1. It doesn’t happen again. 2. Get health care for your girlfriend and child. 3. Tell your parents. There are several advocates that are willing to help you and your child. The Medicaid program is there to make sure your girlfriend receives prenatal care and your child can visit the doctor and receive prescriptions for his/her first year of life. I can tell you now that if you are a good father this is going to be a long hard amazingly wonderful journey that I pray you accept. Although premarital sex is wrong in my opinion I know it is easy to get caught up in emotions and pleasure (adults make this mistake all of the time including celebs, they are not any more right than you are.)Also, I know telling you all’s parents seems like a monumental obstacle but most likely after they finish yelling screaming crying and wishing that this “problem” they will help you as much as they can. My mother tried to encourage me to get an abortion (although I don’t believe that God approves of covering up one sin with another) and she kicked me out and said she would never speak to me again. 9 months later she was a doting grandmother. Trust me God appreciates your decision to not kill a budding life. Although, if your girlfriend and you are choosing to continue to have sex I would suggest a.)protection (I.e. condoms, birth control etc.) b.) marriage as soon as possible (not only will this provide a stable environment which a child both needs and craves this will also sanctify your commitment to your child and your child’s mother. It is also important to remember that “playing the field” and “dating around” is a luxury that has to be put on the back burner because now that you are a father it is in the best interest of the child to see a HEALTHY LOVING and PRODUCTIVE relationship) c.)it is also of the utmost importance to finish school. Not only will this lead to financial stability it also is the first step to becoming the type of person you want your child to become. It will not be an easy experience. There will be stares and resentment. People will not realize that you are being a brave and honorable man by not running away from your mistakes. It is very important for you and your child’s mother to lean on God and each other. She is most likely feeling ver scared and confused right now. (I’d be scared if she wasn’t) Throughout this journey I wish you blessings, patience, love and the respect that everyone needs especially in a time like this. God bless you, your girlfriend and the miracle that is soon to come.

The only way you’re realistically going to make it is if you each tell your parents. It’s not just the money, either (although that would be a huge problem otherwise). You’re going to need someone who’s had kids to give you advice, support you, and babysit when you can’t stand it anymore. It won’t be nearly as bad as you probably think. Just come out and say it.

There are exceptions to most rules, and while I don’t know you and your girlfriend, you don’t have a snowball’s chance of making a go of it at 16 and 17 years old. I admire your desire to be involved in the baby’s life and encourage you to follow through on that, but cthulhu is right.

I would think clearly about what you are going to do because a baby is not easy my cuzen emma is only 17 and is having a baby sometime this week and she did not no what to do or what her perants was going to say but she told them and they was not happy at first but they are now and they are having money problems now so god help them when the babys here. do you think you will be with your girlfriend forever if not I dont think its worth having a baby this young but if you do stick together you can do it {trust me it ent inpossible} I wish you good luck ! x

The only answer I can think of is an abortion if you dont want it, srry theres no other way I know of, and dont be a fool, wrap your tool.

The best advice that I can give you is tell your parents!!! It is the best thing for the problem. Start looking at jobs, finish high school at least, there are colleges that have family doorms and will work with you so that you can get a degree. Try to make your child have the best life he/she can have. In other words STEP UP, GROW UP become a man and a loving father to not only your child but your g/f

do at least tell your parent, even if you plan to move out cthulhu is right they can help you withbabysitting, advice, show you what to do, maybe even help you with the money and baby items…youve really got nothing to loose by telling them if you plan to move out…so go on also get a job, hopefully youll have some highschool education try to get a wellpaying job…not a gig in a fast food resteraunt look around, ask around, see who will take you on, even if its just as an aprentice the house bit will be hard, youll need your parents help for that, and youll need to do a lot of research so you dont end up with more fees than you should have also you dont need to buy all your furniture and everything brand new, to save money, op-shops and second hand stores have almost everything you could need at a very reasonable price but do get your parents help, or if not them, some older people like friends, relatives, teachers, doctor, counsellor, youth workers even

The state will have insurence for her and the baby. You need to talk to parents. I wouldnt have an abortion! I would decide… Do you love her? Does she love you? If so Try talking to 1-8000-395-care they will help you find where you need to go in your area!

Oh, didnt read the whole question, but money would be a HUGE problem, you’d have to get insurance, jobs,(and flipping patties at Mckdonalds aint going to cut it), Youd have to feed it, watch it, make sure it dosent get sick, but clothes for it, plus if you want anything close to a decent job, youd have to finish school. Id still go with the abortion.

YOU CAN ONLY TAKE IT STEP BY STEP YOUR YOUNG FINISH SCHOOL EXPLAIN TO BOTH YOUR PARENTS YOU GUYS NEED SUPPORT AND TAKE IT FROM THERE

ever do it again, do not have an abortion, tell both of your parent’s now (don’t ponder over it, they need to know), get a job