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Is he waiting to see what I say before dumping her?

Ok so I asked a question about my guy friend on Yahoo!Answers.

The other night I was hanging out with him at his job and this girl he has been seeing came by with her little brother. Her brother had to go to the bathroom so she went and showed him where it was. While she was gone he told me she was very boring and then later after she left, he said he was looking for a reason to break up with her.

One of the answerers said “The fact that he told you before her probably means that he has no intention of dumping her if your not into him. How you feel about that is for you to decide.”

Now what exactly did they mean? Are they saying that he told me because he is going to dumb her for me and was wanting to know if I was still interested?

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Answer #1

I think they were saying that if he can’t have you then he’s going to stick with her. Personally, I think you should avoid this situation. If a guy is torn between 2 females,then regardless of who he chooses he’s still going to feel like he is missing out on something with the other.

Answer #2

He isn’t torn between me and her. He is leaving her regardless. He doesn’t want to be with her anymore.

Before he knew I liked him, I used to talk to him about him and made him think I was talking about someone else. That way I could find out what he thought or felt without directing the question personally towards him. Could he have been using my trick against me? He told me she bores him and that he can’t find anyone who gets him or can challenge him and then looked at me and in quote said “you know me”.

I think she is using him for who he is and how hot he is.

Answer #3

Dear shibbs23, This is a big red flag. When ever anyone complains about their girlfriend/boyfriend to another in this way it’s trouble. A mature person who is worth your time would have not said such a thing to you. They are most likely right when they say he would do the same to you. The other side is that he does not see you as anything but a friend and has no intentions of hooking up with you. After all why is he hanging out with another women at work (you) do you work there also? If not then that should be an issue too. Sue…good luck

Answer #4

He will probably do the same thing to you when he gets tired of the relationship. Stay away from these kinds of guys.

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