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I have a lonely life, any advice?

I am a 19 year old college student. I have been living with my aunt for 1 1/2 years and I have never been ANYWHERE with people my age since I have been living with her. I want to go out but I don’t know how to tell her. She doesn’t know any of my friends though. I remember my first semester in college some friends asked me to go out with them to a club and I asked her and she sarcastically bust out laughing in my face. She was like”don’t they have alchohol there?!”, “Are you even old enough to get in there?” and said that she’ll think about it. She didn’t mention it anymore and I didn’t even want to go anywhere after that, I felt so “played”. It’s been a whole year since then, but almost everyone my age is going out to clubs and I want to go with them. When I was living with my mom I went everywhere with my friends (even teen clubs) and I had a blast. Now I feel like I am being held back from enjoying my life. What should I do about this situation? And yes I am old enough to go the club of my choice.

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Answer #1

You’re old enough to have a life of your own. Your aunt isn’t stopping you from having a life but, she might be holding you back because she doesn’t want anything to happen. You can save up to live on your own if that’s what you want or live with a couple of friends of yours. Your aunt doesn’t understand obviously but, that’s her. You have decisions that you can make for yourself. Your aunt can’t make those for you. It might seem that way, but, she’s overprotective of you. I think that’s a bit much. You’re an adult and she should understand the fact that you’re not a child! You have a life and you need to utilize that. So, think about what you want to do as far as moving out or something while you’re still in college. These are some tough decisions you’ll have to make. But, if you stick with the one that’s best for you whether it’d be moving out or whatever, then you just go for it! Take care, and hope you make the right choice!

Answer #2

well I’m assuming people your age also go to places where there is no alcohol… why dont you start by going to those places…

Answer #3

If you really wanted to, you can take responsibility of your own life and move out, if you think that your aunt is holding you back. Get a part-time job while you study to support yourself, live with a friend or a few friends to split rent, and do whatever you want to do within reason.

Nothing’s stopping you, you are an adult and you can make your own choices and do your own thing. Except if you live in someone else’s place, you will have to follow their rules while you’re under their roof, no matter how old you are. Save up for a car, or get your friends to pick you up to go places. You really have endless opportunities if you try.

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