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I give up on parents

I can’t handle the fact that they won’t accept me for who I am. They say they care about my opinion but it never matters to them. I told them I wanted to be an MRI tech. at first they were okay about it. Now that I’m a junior they’re rubbing in “hurry up and pick what you want to be” I was still set for Radiology. They’ve been nagging on me that 2 year college won’t get me anywhere (thats how long it takes to get it) everytime I try to speak for myself they put me back down saying I’m “talking back to them.” Okay, they say they just want “the best” for me, but the best for me is to do what I LOVE or have interest it. It’s been happening for months now, I finally gave in. My mom was so estatic when I told her RN. It so freaken hurted when I told them that and they didn’t even bother to ask “is this what you want.” my mom even threatend me that if I didn’t do what she wanted me to do, then she wouldn’t pay for my schooling at all. it hurts to know they would do something like that, so I gave up. I was never the giverupper parents, if you’re reading this. would you do this to your child? if so why? and teenns, what would you have done?

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Answer #1

I have 2 daughters one wants to be a nurse the other wants to be a chef.They have changed their minds a lot over the years.they are now 14 and 16.I have told them that I don’t care what they do in life as long as they are happy and make a better life for themselves then their father and I did. We have struggled through the years do to me being a stay at home mom(not that I would trade that for anything) and dad starting out as a farmer then went to truckdriving.It hasn’t been easy, but we want better for them, but we also don’t want them to take a job just because the pay is great.what good is the pay if they are not happy and can’t enjoy the benefits anyways.I know my girls will do very well in the fields they have chosen,but if they change their minds again I will stick by them.

Answer #2

You can share with your mother that by 2009 there will be a shortage of registered nurses to the tune of 18,000 and the pay scale is going up and up. A registered nurse with proper training can make upwards of $60,000 per year. A registered nurse with a masters degree in nursing makes over $85,000 a year in certain parts of the country and more. The benefits of working for a hospital are terrific, with retirement benefits that make some corporate workers jealous.

The nursing field is being addressed more seriously because registered nurses are getting their acts together and approaching it more professionally. Men are entering the field because they see how flexible and lucrative it is.

I know, I’m married to a trauma nurse specialist and everyone around is certainly glad he’s on hand when something goes terribly wrong.

Approach your parents respectfully with facts and statistics on nursing, and the new developments in the field and see if they might consider it a worthy occupation, not to mention the difference you will make in other people’s lives.

Answer #3

so parents,

how can I confront my parents with this. Nothing ever seems to matter when I say something. It seems like it just goes in their ear and out the other.  Reading what you guys put down makes me jealous that my parents aren't like that
Answer #4

Just be glad that you have parents that care. My parents don’t care if I go to college they think that I won’t do it I told them yes I am I want to be an RN I AM going to prove them wrong

Answer #5

how will it all work out, if she makes it seem like I have no other choice. it sucks butt that she does this.

Answer #6

If your mom wont pay it there are ways you can get loans to pay for it and then you can get a job or something to work off paying them off. Do what you want to do because you’re going to be doing it for the rest of your life your parents don’t have to go through it you do. I’m a sophmore my parents support me in anything I want to do after high school (going to go to college to be a nurse) but that’s what I want. I say follow your heart and it will all work out.

Answer #7

No I wuldn’t, And I dont think you should give in.

Answer #8

it will work out because you can get loans to pay for school for what you want to do if they wont pay

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