Do I have a right to feel abused and what do I do?

Yes, you definitely have a right to feel abused. He may not be hitting you, but he’s abusing you in a mental and emotional way.

You should definitely try and figure out what happened two years ago that caused such a horrible change.

what happened in the last two years to cause him to become this way? did he lose a job and that’s why he sits home all day? also, yes, I do think its abuse. but he may be doing it more because he is losing respect for you each time you do things that are his ‘way’. you feel like he’s a monster and you are in prison? to some extent, you feel that way because you are allowing him to make you feel that way. you could first start by getting him to go out there and get a job. maybe he’s like that because either he feels like a loser and to make himself feel better, he has to put you down. OR he’s guilty of somehting he has done to you but so that you never suspect it, he treats you that way to make it look like YOU are doing something instead> Either way, he’s degrading you, not helping you pay the bills, blames you for things, screams and curses at you??? those are all ABUSIVE in my book as well as 100s of published books out there. Now, instead of trying to figure out what you can do for your ‘family’, why dont you figure out what YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS? You sound like you are keeping this ship afloat, don’t you think you could provide the same WITHOUT him in the picture? Maybe thats all you need to do for him to WAKE UP. He can either shape up or ship out. Think about the next 10,20, 30 years of living like this? If he doesn’t kill you first, his words will. No one should have to live a life of feeling like a prisoner. As long as you are there and put up with this garbage, you are just as much to blame as he is. So think about whats good for you and the 2 kids, and do whats best for YOU and THEM. - not him.

call the maury povich show, they have topics like this all the time, and in the end they completely turn the man around. seriously, do it!!!

If he is abusing go to the police and report it, and independently of everything kick him out of the house.

wow see a therapist. get some help. im so sorry hes being this way. poor you :(