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a couple of months ago I got raped by my boyfriend's father.how can I tell my mother and my boyfriend? can somebody help me?
Congratulations for coming out about this. It isn't easy and you're being very courageous. RAINN ( Rape, Abuse and incest National Network) can help you and advise you on what to do.
Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, for free, confidential counseling, 24 hours a day: 1.800.656.HOPE.
You can search for a local crisis center near you here: http://tools.rainn.org/counseling-centers/index.html
They can help you with legal issues and counseling. Maybe you should call the RAINN hotline first to muster up the courage to tell your mom and bf about it. Thats going to be one of the hardest things to do.
Just know that you aren't alone in this. I myself was a survivor of sexual abuse and Rape by a step father. If you need any kind of support funmail me.
Tell them straight forward...be straight & real about it and show that you are upset and depressed about it and it has been killing you for days.. explain how hard it was to tell them... I mean your man might think what the hell is going on..but tell him what had happened...and you weren't happy about it & I am sure you're not... And if your man wants to act up let him...its not your fault you were honest about it.. i mean most people hide it but it burns in their hearts forever until they let it out.. don't be sucker and tell them..its better now than later...if you wait any longer they will think you are playing around or making stories up to ruin his reputation.. try it and tell me how it goes.. good luck.
Be straight forward. I would tell your mom first. You will need her support when you tell your boyfriend. Don't be surprised if your boyfriend isn't exactly supportive at first. Men in general are scared of really in depth problems and they don't know how to react to them at first. He will understand however if he is the one for you and he will support you through your tough time. I would try and do it as soon as possible because the longer you wait the worse the pain is the easier it is to lie and the harder it is make sense of your feelings. Hope this helps.
I wish I could give you some great tips on this very serious question, but I cannot. I highly reccomend you seek professional help. Talk to your physician and/or a therapist. There is also a number you can call to the National Rape Crisis Hotline you can find in the yellow pages for help in pointing you in the right direction. I am truly sorry this has happened to you and I hope you find all the help and understanding you will need. Do not wait to act this.
Monica
omg. i realy sorry this happened...does your boyfriend know? anywho, i say u sit your mom down and your boyfriend, and tell them, but say it calmly..and remind your mother that it isnt your boyfriends fault..u dont want her growing to hate your b.f u have to act fast. god for bid it happens again. i can only imagine how ur feeling right now. stay strong...once again, im realy sorry u had to go through that.
best of luck and i hope i helped <3
if i were u...i would just say it loud and clear...it may be hard...but i rather have the guy behind bars so that he wont hert any one else... so do what u want...i know it is very very very! HARD! but think about the other people...what if he strikes again? then what?
im really sorry that this happend to you, but do what is right! stand up for what is right.
well first of all i feel your pain because it has happened to me too all you have to do is this
sit them both down and tell them just come clean about it and if you know who raped you,U need to go to the police (that is what i did)but make sure you no who did it.
hope this helps -savanna
wow well first of all its not your fault always remember that! dont be afraid that they wont believe you because they most probably will if you need help you need 2 tell some1 soon! if u need a friend to talk to message me and i'll give you my msn addy ok babe???
good lucky!!
xxx
I'm sorry to hear this bad news happened to u ...but my advice to you don't worry about it just let all your family know it as well your boyfriend ...I think that is good for you and good luck.
tell ur mum first. i know some ppl feel ashamed about it but it isn''t ur fault. Ur bf might not belife u or think ur just trying to make his dad a bad person or somehting.
