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Argh! I'm sick of my dad (and my mum at times.) yes every parent is contorling over there chilreden (I understand!) but they take it to far, always calling me when ever I'm out, even if they know where I am with who. And they want let me be friends with some people, which is so anyyoing because I believe everyone is the same. My dad gets really broed at times and shows to much intrest in my life, which I can't handle having no speace to my self, they read though my books which I write about my self. It drives me crazy! Argh!
What can I do to get them off of my back? (I'm only 15.)
haha. Im in college and still when I come home my parents control me like I am their 13 year old son. Just last night I was with my girlfriend and this whole weekend my parents have been bugging me about not wanting to see them. I went to a football game with my dad and chilled with my mom(peacefuly). I consider that bonding time. I love them so much. but...
Because they think im not spending time with them they blame others. They told my girlfriend that she is too possive. that hurt her. she only wants to show them shes a good person and and that she suports my higher education. my parents always talk about school. nothing else. So I enjoy spending time with someone who doesnt talk about school all the time, I.e my girlfriend.
As for the snooping in private things, you'll never get around that. They will ask you for your journal and if you dont give it to them they'll ground you or send you on a guilt trip.
I dont know. We all have problems the same and different.
Its hard, I know. People like us just need to power through these things and pray they (our parents) dont treat us this way when we are on our own for good.
Good luck and best wishes.
Hey, I Think the same thing is happening to me cos yea.. Im an asian kid. My parents are always like why do you play your computer so much. They always control me like tell me to vacuum,do the laundry and wash the dishes. And at the end when i start to shout and say i dont care Ok?! And they just start swearing and say tomorow ill cut the internet off and when we eat we wont call you! Or cook your dinner. I just dont understand why. They just want me to be perfect. If i fail school they say why dont you be like your brother aye? He wake up at 6 in the morning and you wake up at 12. Whenever my cousins come to my house, I dont want to play with them cos i like being alone. So when i play on my Dsi or Computer they just say get off! Why dont you go outside and play with your brother? Why dont you ride your bike to the park!? Everytime that happens, we talk for a long time and my mum just keeps saying why the F*** do i have this child?! Why God. i tell them that, what they said hurt my feelings. but they say i never knew u had feelings.
-Vincent
Hey, I Think the same thing is happening to me cos yea.. Im an asian kid. My parents are always like why do you play your computer so much. They always control me like tell me to vacuum,do the laundry and wash the dishes. And at the end when i start to shout and say i dont care Ok?! And they just start swearing and say tomorow ill cut the internet off and when we eat we wont call you! Or cook your dinner. I just dont understand why. They just want me to be perfect. If i fail school they say why dont you be like your brother aye? He wake up at 6 in the morning and you wake up at 12. Whenever my cousins come to my house, I dont want to play with them cos i like being alone. So when i play on my Dsi or Computer they just say get off! Why dont you go outside and play with your brother? Why dont you ride your bike to the park!? Everytime that happens, we talk for a long time and my mum just keeps saying why the F*** do i have this child?! Why God. i tell them that, what they said hurt my feelings. but they say i never knew u had feelings.
-Vincent
My mom is way to over-protective. I am only 12, but I know not to sneak around and do bad stuff behind her back. I tell her this, but she doesn't listen. For example, I wanted to walk about a mile down the road and it was about 11AM and she was still sleeping. I quietly went into her room, and I woke her up nicely, and said " Mom, may I please walk to Wassi's house? Bella will be walking with me, so no need to worry. We are gonna meet Wassi behind the school then all of us will walk to Wassi's house. Mrs.Z will be home." She was like "No, cailyn! wait until it gets 12 or 1! It is way to early to be walking!" I ask her "Mom, can Bella come over so we can both wait until 12 or 1 to walk?" She said "CAILYN! GET OUT! I WILL TELL YOU WHEN YOU CAN WALK! NO FRIENDS OVER NOW! ACTUALLY, NO YOU CAN'T WALK OR GO BY WASILLA'S HOUSE TODAY!" I don't know what to do about my mom, she is way too mean to me! She makes me cry, and I dont know how long of this I can still take. But I put on a smile and tell myself it's gonna be ok, because the day I turn 18, I'm gonna be GONE!
First...have you done anything in the recent past that may have bruised their trust in you? Said you were going one place, and going somewhere else instead? The little lies that can make even the most innocent outing become a suspicious one?
Parents and teenagers have been battling the privacy and independence vs. protection and guidence, since the beginning of time. You didn't say one thing in your post, that I didn't say when I was 15...nor have your parents done a single thing different than MY parents did, when I was your age...and that 42 years ago!! LOL...
All I can tell you is this...it's not forever...and there will come a time, when you are on the other side of line...the parent side...they've been there, they remember their own "stuff"...and impossible tho it may be to prevent...they don't want you to make the same mistakes.
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Hey sis! Wow that's so hard!! I think that your parents worried about you. Because you are their daughter... I had same situation like you..maybe it can help you too.. When I was in high school, I felt it too. My mom came to my room and then read my diary. I was angry much to my mom. And my dad did it too. He always calls me when I was out and having fun with friends. He wanted to know who is my friend. But I told them that I feel not comfort about their attitude. I explained that I want to some space for my privacy. At the first time, my parents didnt want to listen my explanations. But after that day, they can understand me. Dont worry sis! Just tell your parents but be clam down (talk heart to heart)!! They will know what you want it.
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Goodluck sis!!! You can do it!!!
im 18, still hopelessly controlled and rather angry at the moment. I failed chem for the second time this school year this quarter and my dad is freaking out at me. I cant pass most of my classes because I have rampant depression. this prevents me from trying hard. im actually brilliant but I just cant work around it. my depression problems are caused partly because im barely allowed out of the house and when I am its only with one of 3 people. my parents wont leave me alone. I feel like a marionette (a puppet on strings). im trying to move out but I dont have a job and therefore I have no money. I hate my parents... and dont say hate is a strong word. I wish they would burn in hell.
OMG...I am 13 years old...and my parents are sooo annoying, my mom wants to get me a cell phone, so then I can go whereever with my friends and all, but my dad says no, shes not ready...my friend already told me that she's gonna get me and early special birthday present sience my birthday is in December, its a cell phone, and I said ok...I haven't clearly told my parents yet...becuase I know their gonna say no...I NEED advice...
Waoh! This is interesting,do you why? May be is because they wanted you to have this sense of belonging to them.But don't be angry them and even though if you could be angry,please don't show it off to them do you why? Because they are your parents and be of little patient with very soon you ripe the benefits.Just obeyed them on whatever they commanded you to do.You are a daughter to themwhile they are your parents.
Ok the reading of the diary part is a little overboard. I suggest you tell them that it is off limits, they need to respect your privacy... The rest, well they're just worried. How about you text them, every once in a while? If you're going to the movies, when you get out just text them saying you're done with the movies and you'll be home in __ hours... if you contact them maybe they wont feel the need to call...
As a parent, it is hard not to be too "into" your child's life. but reading your journal is too much. hide the journal and wait for the day when you are on your own...college, job, or both. but I promise, you will be just as much of a jerk when you are a parent...maybe in a different way, but just as much of a jerk...
You are wrong if you EVERYONE is the same - dangerous thinking which could get you very hurt or worse ! - Realize parents are doing their job when they - look after your best interests - Love you enough to ensure you're safe - CARE ! - be Thankful - many, many, many, don't - make them proud !!
My parents did the same Now I just go out with my friends
they call but if its a bad time I don't answer and call them back at a good time saying I didn't feel it viberate
works for me
hey parents, why not just call them ANNOYING
It sounds as though you are an only child and many parents get over protective if they only have 1 child my mums an only child an she was overprotected when she moved out my nan and grandad backed of abit
Someday you will all be very close and all this forgotten.
