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Hello! Well, here goes. I am eighteen years of age residing in a smaller town with my mother and my father. My father is rarely home on behalf of the job that he works (14 hours a day, 6 days a week). This questions leads up to "Why can't my mother and I get along?" Ever since I was a child my mother has restricted me from average things children would normally do such as sleep overs, playing outside, talking on the phone, having toys, and so on. I remember when I was in Girl Scouts I had attended the state fair and my mother forbid me to aboard the rides, so I simply watched. She is a homemaker, therefore she is usually home. I understand being a mother is one of the most challenging jobs in the world, but my mother tends to sleep all day or watch soap operas. I am ordered to clean the whole house, even their room. I barely make a mess. I am a high school student and I go to college full time. Other parts of the day, you will find me working a part-time job. I always make sure that my messes are up, my grades are elevated, and I keep an all-around good atmosphere. I am always woke up by my mother yelling at my father. Every time he brings a pay check home, she spends it for herself than she asks why we don't have money for certain things. She forbids my father to buy lunch and when he does he gets chewed out for it. Than when I wake up she starts in on me as soon as my dad leaves about off the wall things. She says of how much of a monster I am and how I make her whole life difficult. She goes to church three times a week than she will come home and curse us for no apparent reason, or she tries to find every reason in the book. As soon as I come home from classes or work she find something else to yell about. When I was in eleventh grade I had made my first C and she decided to put her hand up to me. She tends to take every little problem out of proportion (if there is even a problem). How can she find so many things to be mad about when I'm rarely home trying to make a good life for myself? I don't ask her for money. I really don't ever ask her of anything. I am an independent woman. When I do attempt doing things for myself she goes on and on about how I do them wrong. She turns me into a monster that I am not. She tells me when I walk through the door she is going to have a talk with dad about how bad I treat her. I do not say one word to this woman. When I am out I am always calling to see if I can pick her up anything. Anyway to help, is the least I can do. How can I stop to verbal/mental/ and possible physical abuse from my mother? I have experienced so many things throughout my life and I really don't think I can take much more of this stress. I'm way too young to say my nerves are shot. I am thinking about picking up another job within the next couple months to move out. I will be working myself to death, but I'm starting to think picking up all of this extra stuff is worth not putting up with my mother. Please, has anyone ever experienced this? How did you handle it?