Ok so my friend told me her biggest secret.. And it was that bad I don't talk to her anymore but I'm not sure I was fair I can't stop thinking about what I've'e done! :( well I'm going to tell you what she said.. Because you people don't no her so it won't matter. Well she said when she was about 12 she was sleeping over at her cousins and he was 10 and she said they kinda had sex but not :/ and that when she was on holiday once around the same year that she had sex with her other cousin but not actual sex. How do I respond to that! I mean.. Like! Ah I don't no! :( I mean she was 2 young to no better? Is that a good enough excuse to be friends? I mean like she said it wasn't proper sex? Argh I'm so confused! Please help I don't no what to do :( :( :(
Why would you not be friends with her because of that? Did it even remotely impact your life? It's in the past, for one, so you should be thankful that the person even trusted you with the secret. It's not like she's whoring herself around town. The fact is that kids get curious around that age, and they end up seeking out answers to questions they have about changes in their body. What your friend did is more normal than you may realize (to a degree), so I don't see any reason to just stop being friends with her or something crazy like that. You can be shocked or whatever, but don't be judgmental. If she thought that was how you would react, she would have never trusted you with that sort of information in the first place.
And by the way, my advice above would apply even if she had full blown sex because I don't believe in the thin lines between sex, almost sex, oral sex, dry humping, etc. It's all the same to me.
I think you shouldnt stop being her friend just because of sum things she did when she was younger, some of my friends have done sum pretty appalling things to do with sex, and although I dont approve I'm still their friend, but I try and steer them in a direction that I think is more respectful and good for them. However I can't control them and I wont try to. I think you should tell your friend your thoughts? she probably really regrets it, esp if it's her biggest secret. She told you it because she knew you were a good friend, but you've betrayed her trust by acting the way you have and you should try to mend things with her! she probably feels incredibly embarrassed and ashamed, so you should help her! talk to her about it and try to help her feel better about herself and so on, if you stop being her friend over it it's not gunna help anything...
Havent you made mistakes? So why stop being friends with someone who made one when she was younger. Tha is the past, and I think that you must have ment a lot to her if she had told you what considered her secret. You should be friends with her, I bet if that was you, you would be feeling horrable, and ashaed, and you would probobly be telling yoursel what a horable pearson you are. So don't let her think that and be her friend, we all make mistakes.
yeah I agree thanks guys you have helped I have talked to her where fine and she was very upset the was crying about and really didn't want to be alive because of it :( but we had a long talk. thanks guys <3
thanks so much! I will talk to her today about it. you're right I can't stop been her friend for something stupid :) thanks a lot xx
no problem, hope she forgives you and wasnt too hurt by it :) good luck :)
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