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I'm turning 20 tommorow... I graduated in May... My grandmother has been so kind as to have taken me in 10 months ago... When it came time for me to go to the art school I dreamed of my whole high school career... she told me that I was stupid, I was cutting off my nose dispite my face, because I would be paying back student loans for the rest of my life and living on the streets because art makes no money... So I signed up for community college, hoping to find a carrer that would intrest me... but the fact of the matter is I am misrable... I know she loves me but I don't paint anymore, I don't sew anymore, charcole sits in the bottom of drawers waiting to turn to dust... my paintstaint ecentric wardrable has been replaced by what she calls "sutable for a functioning young adult." She knows every intamacy of my life... I know she dose it out of love... but I want my long hair back... I want black hands and a paint stained face, I want to be surounded by the smell of terpinoid and liquin again... It is quite literally like stabbing a knife into my heart and wresteling out my sole... the fact of the matter is I have made alterintave plans... I have signed up for a school on the other side of the country... I have gotten together my arrangement including a plane ticket... I know that I can chicken out and pretend nothing ever happened with no ones knowledge, but, that would be an incredible waist of time and money... and I have decided no matter what happens I will go even if she follows me to the airport throwing a fit... but she has a bad habit of starving her self and getting sick when she gets upset... so how do I tell her... I know she will most likely be upset but I just don't want to cause her to compramise her health.
As a person who has made a living out of making and selling artwork, being an artist does not instantly spell out poverty. Yes, many artists have part time jobs, in case of times when the demand for artwork is bad. It's a real dream though, and things have moved forward in leaps and bounds since your grandmother's day. With the creation and popularity of sites like ebay, It's easier to sell your artwork to the world than it ever was.
I know she's your grandmother and you would never want to upset her, but the reality is, she'll love you whatever you do, even if she might not agree with you. You need to tell her that it's your life, to do whatever you want with it, whatever makes you happy. You can't go through life living up to other people's expectations, you'll be miserable.
All the best!
it also sounds like she doesn't want you to go because she may be lonely without you there.does she live alone other than you? maybe if thats the case, she could move WITH you ..could be burdensome, or it could really be great.did you ever think of that as an option?...I'm not trying to say you owe her for her letting you stay there, but she may have become accustomed to you being around and she's probably going to miss ya...or you could stay there, finish the next semester,while getting back into your artwork and sell something.. then maybe that will impress her enough to have her give you her approval...good luck!
you just have to tell her nicely..your not asking for her permission, your nicely asking for her approval..tell her its your life long dream, and it makes you happy, tell her how you feel..ask her if she ever felt like this before...
oh..and HAPPY BIRTHDAY !
