How do I tell my mom Im dating an older guy

Im 14 and my boyfriend is sixteen. May not sound like a big deal because its not really, Shes so oldfashion though. She would freak if I told her I was dating a sophmore. He always wants to come and pick me up and take me places but I always have to say no because my mom would never let me ride with him let alone date him. I dont want it to ruin my realationship with Jake or my mom. What should I do. I REALLY like Jake.

Answer #1

She’ll freak more if she finds out some otherway

If I were you, I’d tell her that you really like this guy, but dont use the word boyfriend, Just say your hanging out with him and a bunch of other people, that way your not really lieing. see how it goes with Jake, then in a few weeks like if your still going with jake and you think its going to last and hes treating you right, sit down and explain to her that you and jake are boyfriend and girlfriend, explain how he treats you and how happy he makes you and that most of all he treats you with respect, and get her to meet him like at dinner or something so she can get to know him. If you can face telling her to her face at this point, write it in a letter and leave it when she has time to read and think about it then she wont just go off on one shel have time to digest it and think about it and then talk calmly:)

I hope this helps :)

Answer #2

Uh if she’s oldfashioned shouldn’t she understand age differences? A lot of old couples I know are like 10 years apart. That includes my parents

Answer #3

I agree with tori. My daughter is almost 15 and dating an older boy. But, she is honest with me and he knows how I feel also. They can only see each other here at our house and no upstairs. Those are my rules and they both know. lol

Just talk to your mom. Be honest with her and let her know that you are aware of what can happen and hopefully things will work out for you.

There is 8 years between my hubby and I so I could not tell my daughter no about seeing her boyfriend.

BTW: he is only two years older than her as well.

Answer #4

Coming from a mother, I don’t think two years is that big an age difference. As long as my child is honest with me and keeps me aware of everything I will be satisfied. I do hope he’ll make the right choices and be ready and willing to ask my advise. I think your mom probably feels the same way. She wants you t make the right choices and she wants you to ask for advise and talk about things with her. I can almost guarantee it.

Answer #5

Tell her. If she found out without you telling her, it could make things worse. I was 17 when I was dating a guy that was 22. I told my mom, who’s old fashioned too, and suprisingly enough, she let me date him even though she was skeptical about it. Tell her and you might be surprised at her reaction. Sit her down and lay everything out on the table. Tell her that you’re smart and won’t do anything stupid and that you really like him. Good luck!!

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