Ok, I have been with my fiance for 13 months. We have been engaged for 3 months. For the past few months, he has become extremely controlling (well he tries to be).. and I dont know what to do! I am becoming sick of this and I know I deserve better but I love him and I want to try to make this work. But every time I try and tell him what he is acting like, he just gets mad at me and goes in a modd and wont listen. First of all.. SEX. Well, he seems to think there's something wrong with not having sex every single day of every single week. He says "I am his girlfriend and I am supposed to want sex". If I tell him I dont want to, he goes all moody for the rest of the night, and basically stays in that mood until we have sex, whether its the next day or whatever. Apparently, Im "never in the mood" well thats what he says, but its hard to be in the mood when I feel like I am being pressured into doing it. Also, he doesn't work, and sits in the house all day. I leave for work at around 7.30am and dont get back until around 7pm. Therefore I am tired sometimes. If I dont call him, he will get mad. I left my phone in my work one night and obviously I couldnt contact him, so he went in a mood as usual and was interrogating me for no reason. Also, when we are on the phone, and hes at the shop or something and he meets his friend, he says he is gona go talk to his friend so thats fine with me. Last night, I was at the train station coming home from work and I met 2 of my friends (one from school who I used to be best mates with, and the other (her boyfriend) who I used to work with). I told my Fiance that I was gona go and tlk to them because I havent spoke to them for months, but he got mad at me. He started calling them names and abusing them, and because I stuck up for myself he was even more mad. There is more things he does but I feel you will already get the jist.
Please help!
oh my gosh! im having the same problem, my fiance isnt talking to me now, because I went out to eat with my bestfriend which has a boyfriend,we all went to school together. he says I cater to others and put him last. when hes mad with me he sleeps on the couch until he feels he want to talk to me after 4 days without saying a word.were getting married in august but, it seems he gets mad when im spending time with someone else,and then he tells me he wants to spend time with me and tells me .he shouldnt have to make an appointment to spend time with his fiance.what to do? help me
I think you need to sit him down and tell him that it's not going to work out unless you two can talk about the things that bothers you. Make sure he knows that this is a big deal and he's not treating you right. I know that this is hard for you and I feel bad but talking to him and maybe even leacing him is the only way. No one deserves to be treated that way.
Hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck
