How do I start to accept myself as who I am?

I am so sorry, that has got to be hard.I didn’t have a hesterectomy like you, I just had my tubes tied three years ago. For the longest time afterwards I felt like I didn’t have a purpose anymore, like not a real woman. Being able to give birth is what makes a woman a woman. I do have three kids which I am thankful, but whenever I think about it its like I shouldn’t have done that, we may have had another girl! Its hard, and I can’t even imagine how hard it must be for you. I had mine by choice but you didn’t have a choice. It was basically taken away from you. I don’t know how long it will take to be okay with it, I do know that it will go through your head every once in a while no matter what. Just be strong and be thankful for what you do have! You have a wonderful family like you said who will be there for you!! You should plan some fun activities and just try to live as full of a life as you can. Who knows someday you may be able to harvest an egg and find someone to carry a baby for you!! Then you can still at least have a child who is your own… that may not be what you always dreamed of but its something! I wish you well and I know it’ll work out… just have faith.

my mum is depressed. when it is bad I just hang out with her. we watch a program and dvd’s and it makes her happy. just sitting next to someone you love can help. I am sure your whole family care about you a lot, they are YOUR family and they will always be there, helping you. hang out with your children and your husband, find a nice bonding activity. about the eating, I think that maybe your inadequate feelings about your current circumstances are expressing themselves outwardly. you have a man who loves you just the way you are. children who care for you. I would think that as you find happiness in your current circumstances then you will feel better about yourself. everything works out. if you feel really awful with yourself try writing a list of all the good things you love about yourself. whenever you feel bad read it again. I hope this helps =) enjoy what you do have, don’t ponder on the things you cant.

talk to your husband he will tell you your beautiful and try what the lady above said or adopt but talkto your husband and tell him how it makes you feel x

Well you said it. You have 4 wounderful step children. You can’t have kids of your own, but still your husband and your kids love you. If you were nothing for them then I think that they would care nothing, but thay do, and that should mean anathing to you. I imagine that you fream was to have kids of your own, but you could not, but you were given kids who are not your own, but still see you as their mother, and you should care for them as if you were. If will pass, you just found out, your going trough a tough stage, but all you gatta remember is that you have got a great family, they love you and care for you. Because of who you are.

Your husband obviously loves you very very much, you are a lucky woman. Not being able to have children of your own is emotionally painful, and its normal to be upset about it. You should see a counsellor or talk to your husband in depth about how you feel. Your husband’s children look up to you and love you. When all of these emotions pass, maybe you could look into adoption? So you will have the chance to raise a baby and save somebody’s life.

Time will not heal the wound but it will make it easier to come to terms with. I’m in a similar position although I have a possibility through IVF. It’s so hard and it feels like life isn’t even worth living, but at the end of the day you have a wonderful husband and two beautiful step children. Some women can not have kids and have no support what so ever. I feel your pain and my prayers are with you goodluck!!!

• Okay So You Can’t Have Your Children Of Your Own.. Im Sure That’s Hard To Deal With.But Look Your Not Worthless, Your Way More Than That Your A Step Mother To Those Kids;That’s A Big Deal Too;You Dont Need Children Or People To Make You Feel Attracted. just Live Life And Keep Your Head Up. No It Won’t Be Easy But Try To Live It Up. You Have A Wondeful Family That Cares About You Im Sure You Would Be A Great Mother …