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How do I fix my relationship (boner problem)?

My girlfriend noticed I started getting boners and now she doesnt want to kiss , I didnt even know what haoned till today she said to me if I wanted to know what the problem was she said boner I didnt know what to say , I’ve read a lot of articles and stuff and it says I cant be prevented I don’t know , its normal in teens but I want to know how to make it stop … I tried imagining her crying makes me feel sad and makes it were off but takes awhile , I dont want to make her think our relationship is just physical but emotional I love her a lot and I dont wan tto lose her… what can I do to prevent booners ? help please

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Answer #1

Most girls would be flattered! **

She’s not most girls. This is a strange assumption to make. I think your best solution is to try and tell her that erections are caused by impulse. It’s almost as if the penis thinks for itself. I think she has had a past experience thats causing her to think that you getting an erection means you only want sex out of her or fellatio. Either way, you need to clear the grounds, this is not looking good.

How do you talk to her about it? This seems to be the tough question. Tell her that this ‘’issue’’ that can be solved with a simple talk is ending up distancing the two of you apart and thats not something you want. You just want to emphasize to her the real reasons that you go out with her. Make sure you don’t talk to her about this randomly, set up a time and place for it. That way she isn’t startled by the topic. Either way, if its bothering her, she needs to understand that it’s not something you have control over. Make sure you let her talk as well, you need to listen as well as speak.

Good luck…

Answer #2

Well all you can do is try to get her to understand it is natural and you don’t control it… But that’s about it. Good luck:) I know what a problem that is and when my girlfriend felt it in a slow dance she just laughed and smiled them gave me a kiss:) you’ve got yourself one special girl:) good luck again!!!

Answer #3

but how do I tell her , so that she doesnt feel inconfortable , how do I get into the conversation’?

Answer #4

Most girls would be flattered! It’s a sure sign to her that you are attracted to her, try telling her this also explain how you feel that you cant help it etc :)

Answer #5

you need to tell her there is nothing you can do to help pervent it. It happenes it all boys

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