My husband can't understand why I don't like having sex with him. He just cant get me to have an orgasm. And he just cant take a nice conversation without getting mad. If you can answer it would be appreciated.
If the sex you’re having isn’t super satisfying for you, if you’re in a rut and need to get out of it, taking more control may just be the key. Here are some ways to get going. Initiate You may not have thought of initiating as taking charge, but it so is. Surprising your partner with a sexy suggestion is an awesome way to experiment with being in charge. Picking how, when, and where you do it will help you make sure you’re having sex when you’re super into it, which will probably make it better for you. As a side benefit, if your partner is used to initiating, they will probably find this turn of events really, really exciting. Get on top Do you usually wait for your partner to suggest it to get on top? Now’s the time to switch that up. Being on top gives you more control over the angle, speed, and depth (if penetration is involved), which can make it easier for some people to have sex that really feels great. Get yours The best part about taking charge is focusing on your own pleasure first. Listening to what your body wants during sex and doing that can be super empowering. As always, just make sure you have your partner’s enthusiastic consent first. Read more
Maybe during sex, you should tell him to slow down or encourage him that what he's doing is really good, but that you know of an even better way... Just hide those little requests in different ways. Or maybe try speaking to him about it after he cums, I'm sure he'd be in a much better mood to talk about things. Good luck! :)
yea that must totally suck in that situation but my advice is to take control if the conversation thing doesn't work. when i say take control i mean you set up the evening. You control him in the bedroom the way u want and see what he has to say about that.