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How can I help stop the pain of loosing a pet?

ok… so recently… my beloved dog Holly Mae died.. she died 5/12/10 which was yesterday moirning… I didnt even get to see her bfore she passed… I cant help thinking that she doesnt care about me anymore because I didnt come and say goodbye beforehand.. she died at the Vets office. they were going to keep her till friday, to see if she will be well enough to come home… but she ended up yding on wendsday.. seh was only there for a day.. I didnt even get to say bye before they took her to the vets, because my granparents took her while I was at school… I miss and love her very much… what should I do? she was a Golden retriver.. she had Lyme dease and heartworms…

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Answer #1

Don’t dwell on what your pet was thinking as it passed. As much as we may love and care for them, animals are not humans and do not possess human emotions or thoughts. An animal’s mind is driven by pretty basic needs, and so Holly Mae was not feeling betrayed or depressed that you were not there. Those are human feelings that should not be applied to this situation. It’s very likely that because of the medication, she was not even aware of anything that was going on and undoubtedly passed peacefully. A goodbye would have meant very little to a dog, as it has no concept that it is going anywhere, so don’t beat yourself up over it.

Give the pain time to ease, because eventually, it will. In the meantime, be glad that you gave your pet the best quality of life possible. For many dogs, that’s a comfort they will never know.

Answer #2

Holly was the best dog I ever had… I cant just replace her that quick ryan670… I will never have a dog better than her… and your probably right anne mcritchie1… she prob didnt want to see me cry as she died…

Answer #3

I so sorry about your pet Holy, She was a special girl for you I could tell by you question. cry a little, talk about your feelings towards her. Sometime if you hold a pet funeral and find a meaningful place to bury her that helps you o through the morning process a little easier. Remember Holy is always going to be with you in spirit. Take care of your self. and remember,TIME DOES HEAL ALL WOUNDS!

Answer #4

Time, honey…time is the only healer. You’ve just got to get thru one day at a time…the sharp pain will pass, and in it’s place will be those bitter sweet memories…We’ve all lost dear pets…and we know how you feel.

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Answer #5

your dog will know you loved her & she probably wanted to spare you the heartache of seeing her pass away.One day you will get another dog to love—I did.x

Answer #6

try to buy a new doggie as soon as possible,offcourse it’s not a substitute for your holly..but am sure it will be a relief..take care the new dog beltter than holly..

Answer #7

I know… its that I never got to say goodbye… thats what upsets me the most.

Answer #8

That happened to me recently only my dog was hit by a car purposley…just think that shes in paradice but misses you just as much…I bet she would have wanted to see you before she died.

Answer #9

I just lost a cat not to long ago he was like the only person there for me when ever I got sad or lonely he was always there by my side the stupid thing was that he died when me and my family were watching a movie after the movie I was the one who found him he was behind the couch I thought he was asleep so I started petting him but he didnt look up or purr so I thought he was sick I picked him and he was limp srry I cant go on im crying truth is I think he didnt want you to see him go thats what I always think to im never gonna lose my love with him and you shouldnt either just hang on you can get through this like I did

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