my six year old daughter defies authority. If she doesnt get her way, she hits and throws things around her, refuses to stay in her room and except her punishment, has recently resorted to hurting herself and hitting her father, blatently says NO when asked to do something by authority figures, lies constantly and makes up stories. For example: About a month ago she she started saying she was getting " take- a breaks"( seperated from the class when a child is disruptive to class) at school. As it seemed to becaome a bigger problem, ( getting take-a-breaks at least 3xs a week a for a month, sometimes she'd say she has 2-3 in a day) we added take-a-breaks to her and her sisters sticker charts. It was an unsuccessful attemt. After week one when we took her sister to pick out her prize for recieving all of her stickers for the week, my six year old began lashing out as described above. At her conference last week, we were informed that she had only had a total of 3 take-a breaks, Why does she want to be punished. Why doesnt she tell us the truth when she knows she would be rewarded instead of being punished? What can we do. She won't sit in her room, she will fight her way out, scream and hit the walls and throw items around her. We have been especial;ly attentive to her since we found out we were pregnant. Her little brother is now 1yr and 4 months old...we previously researched ( before we had the baby) "middle child syndrome" and have strategically followed its suggestions. It seems like she doesnt want compliments, and praise...when we started to teach them about god, last year, she even said that she "has a dirty heart"..HELP!!!
Sounds like she is screaming for attention, and wants boundries. I suggest you spank her not with your hand but get a paddle, a few swats and I guarantee it will snap her out of her little world. I have four kids and when they were little we spanked, as they got older the need for it became less and less. You cannot reason with a six year old, they want to be disciplined. But a word of warning never, I repeat never hit in anger. Send her to her room and let her sweat it out for five minutes or so, then go in giver her a few smacks on the bottom, after she stops crying go in and ask her to tell you why she got a spanking, give her a hug and tell her you love her and hope that this will not have to happen again, but it is up to her. "Spare the Rod, spoil the child" Proverbs. Blessings, Christianwalk
although it may be hard you can put her in a school where she would live 24/7 you need reccomendations from the school she is in now. a year there will change her additude hopefully. another thing you can do is take away all toys and playtime from her. sit her in her room or another room with nothing breakable in it. it should take about 3 days for she to begin behaving and when she does give her toys back one by one. if she is bad take them all away agian and continue to do this until her fits stop. goodluck!
k look im going into high school now there are kids that acted like that at age 6 and have no real friends as soon as their "friends" leave they call her names some kids just go through that phase but if thats not her problem shell have no real friends even show her this message if you have no friends at my age its gonna be a bad 4 or 5 years trust me
you know that show nanny 911. get someone like that. a child expert. or else some sort of school should be good. although some schools are very rough with the people and make them worse. choose wisely. good luck.
Check out this book called 1-2-3 Magic. It is a miracle worker.
Military School works wonders.
