How can I help my anerexic friend?

let her get help on her own.. tell her that if she wants to be skinny dont starve herself… tell her that its disgusting and (this is just my opinion… others think differently) she needs to stop because she is killing herself and you love her and dont want to loose her.. its sad when you loose someone… especially that way… hope my advice is somewhat help to you

Anorexia is a very tough thing to battle, even with professional help. Your friend most likely needs people to be there for her. Someone she can go to who will not judge her as badly as she does herself already. So, I really do disagree with the idea of telling her anything negative.

Anyways, do you think this is something you could talk to your friend about? If you can, I think that you should. Just let her know how much you care and are there for her. Ask her if there’s anything you can do. Let her know that if she needs to talk, that you’d be there for her.

It’s tough, but remember that you can only do so much. If you think your friend is in danger, as much as I hate suggesting this, talk to her mom about it and let her know what you know. If you need to, show her the comments her daughter is leaving on the social site. Your friend may get upset, but her health and safety is important.

I had it once…k fine I still do.

Well looking through an eyes of an anerexics perspective, ill tell you why she is that way.

She is anorexic for one main reason. She wants to prove she has control. She most likely has parents who are demanding and expect a lot out of her and treat her like she needs to try harder all the time. It is like her self comfort. Ratting her out wont help. It will shove her with feeding tubes(bin there) and she will gain. Or she will lie and wear baggy clothing. But she will only rebel even harder. No matter what doc says, she still wants what she thinks she doesnt have and will always strive for it. The best way to recover is to start at the bottom. As in, the cause. Make her feel like shes worth it. Make her feel like she doesnt have to prove herself all the time. The problem is, I dont know what you could do to help. im sorry. its a hard battle.

Olliepollie is right in one way, the only real way to fix this disorder (or really most any disorder) is by working from the bottom up. The thing is, unlike other disorders, she may die before the therapy is able to take effect. If she’s compensating using other behaviors (over exercising or throwing up) then someone needs to know or she could die.

I don’t think there’s anything you can do to help her apart from be there for her. I remember when I was in school, all my friends were too scared to come talk to me and be there for me and it just made me worse.

But I had one best friend who was always there for me and slowly I recovered. now im one year recovered and although it’ll always be here inside me and although part of me will always be ‘anorexic and bulimic’, im not in the same place I was so just try and be there for her and just let her know, you’ll always listen and support her.

This is just something she has to do by herself. It’s a lifelong battle that she’ll unfortunately be stuck with for the rest of her life but having a friend helps

And I know it’s hard but don’t try and get her help or get her to stop starving and purging and all that - it might push her away from you and she has to want to recover herself and she will want to at some point because it gets scary and lonely and sad and she will realise that she doesn’t want her life to be like this forever. remind her that there’s a whole world out there and she can be a part of it, happy and healthy. I’m going to uni in september to study mental health nursing and work with people who have eating disorders, so just care and support her and hopefully she’ll understand that there is life outside the control and the pain of it all.

Funmail me if you need any support.. remember that you’re already helping just by caring and just by being there for her - if she knows you’re there for her, then you’ve done enough :)x