How can I convince my parents to let me go places?

im 14, my parents never let me out at all. its very depressing. all I want to do is go like, hangout with friends at like the mall or go have a real practise wit my rockband at like the drummers house instead of trying get out of second block early and hope im allowed to go to the band room. but I cant even do that. everyday, ots the same thing, wake up, school, home. I’ve looked all over the internet for advice or answers or whatever. but I came up with nothing. I tried everything. let me just clearify two things before you guys, or anybody if anyone decides to answer this, or reads it. first, my grades. lots of answers I saw have this in them. so my grades. The best a friggen ninth grade can have. I havent made under a 90 this year. AND currently on top of the ninth grade class. for those who dont know what that means, it means I have THE BEST grades in ninth grade so far. and I know the exsact number too. im 1 of 322. thats very hard to do seeing as my teachers are abunch of strict. I told them, they was happy. and I mean very happy. but my mom was like thts the way it should be. and im still under “life lockdown” as every body says im under. and second, parents meeting my friends so they feel comfterable. I tried that, twice. both ended bad. first I asked if I can go to a friends house to help her study for math. my dad said let me meet her first. they never did. and when I had my friends over ONCE in litterly like years, like YEARS!! my mom was in a COMPLETELY diffrnt room and heard my friend laugh rrly hard and fall on her butt. my mom thought we was chocking her!! that bs happend last year. its like no matter what I do, it never works and im always in the same position im in the day before. and yes, I have tried running away, as you can see, dmdt rrly work out. so yeah. please help me. my situation maks me sad. :( please answer, soon.

Answer #1

I don’t get to go out eaither and I don’t wine. But well… my situation is way different than yours.

anyway… Try meaby earning that. For example. If you clean do your homework can you go out or something, meaby have your perents now how all this is making you feel and all.

Answer #2

to iffy I tried that before, it did squat.

Answer #3

try just yelling “im going to _‘s house” right before you walk out the door or you could like talk to your parents if I were you I would yell and b*tch at them if they didnt let me go anywhere I wouldnt b able to stand it

Answer #4

Hey, I had the exact problem, along time ago. But as not many know, I ran away. It certainly woke my mom up (or as what my dad says) But dont worry about it too much. You as you said already tried running away. You get better grades then me! And thats amazing! DOn’t stop. you can go far with those grades. As for your parents, try having one on one conversations with them. Pick a time where you think they are in a good mood. Handle it in the most respectful manner. One of them is bound to listen. Try a little bit at a time. Ask for example, one friends over to sudy for so and so for a certain amount of time. start off slow. Good luck :)

Answer #5

I had like the SAME problem as youu. im fourteen and my parents didnt let me go anywhere. I’ve probably tried everything I could think of but then I asked some friends of mine what to do and they told me to just ask them why they dont let me go places and how it makes me feel seeing all my friends get to do stuff when I cant.. and we sat down and talked about it and now I get to go places with my friends but I have to check in every once in a while by just a text or call saying where I am.. (which is like every hour or so) and its made things better.. soo try that if you havent already.. hope I helped (:

Answer #6

You should talk to your parents about it and show them how responsible you are…?

Answer #7

okay…this is my experties…okay take for instance you want to go 2 a party..but your parents don’t think you can handel it…you disagree…start out with cleaning the house..but say it was for nothing..they will catch on..lol…when you bring it up next time…keep your chin up..look confident…mature..focuse…don’t forget 2 breath..lol start out with eye contact..turn off all noise..tv, radio, etc. then while she or he is looking at you take a quick glance around at the clean house.. the smile dimly okay…this part is really important..

say look I know I’m you little girl but I need to socially grow…I know you love me and your only trying to protect me…but I can take care of myself I’m not saying I’ll never need you beacuse I do..but I and a capatelliar..not a buterfly..only in your eye’s am I a butterfly…I love you a lot…so please take in consideration how I feel about this situation

trust me they’ll melt…:P..and if they are like the parents who think everythings a gult trip…send me a message I have a special Lexie101 treatment for them…goodluck in whatever lol haha

xoxoxox Alexie Nicole

Answer #8

I just do chores to let them know I`m responsible I guess. :p

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