how could I tell her not to break up

alright thanks

its to hard to move on I love her to much and I really cant live like this

omg im having the same problem! since I cant ask a #@$%ing question right now maybe someone here can help me. ok so here it goes… I met a gir here on funadvice like a month ago and we started off as just friends, well that lasted for like 2 days before she said she loved me but that was great bc I had feelings 4 her too! well we started off as one of those open ended relationships, well she did at least bc im horrible at relationships and rilly couldn’t get a girlfriend if I tried. and rilly everything was going great for about 2 weeks, it seemed that every day our feelings got stronger and she ended up breaking up with the boyfriend she got. well bc for the first time in my life I actually LOVED somebody I asked her out, she said yes after probably a couple hours of thinking and I could’ve only been happier if we were actually togethr irl. it was right before we went to sleep that she said yes so she said she was tired she loved me, etc… well the next morning I got woken up at 6:30 to a really sad text saying that she was soo… sorry but she couldn’t handle another long distance relaionship and I was devistated! but I got thru it and we went back to the open ended BS that we had before, well after a while it went into small fights and spending hours trying to get her t stop crying bc she loved me but was so depressed bc of the distance, it was killing me to hear her like that! and now less than a week ago we decided it was best to just be friends again, but I don’t know wuts going on bc the sam thing happened all over again! we were fine for about a day, the next one it was right back to the painful I luv u’s and the upset love stomach feeling all the time, us breaking up only made her like me more and im so confused now! it hurts to be friends with a girl who you love and you love back but cant say it bc everything @#$%s up after that! please help me before she tries to kill herself again! it was terrifying enough the first time around, shes “emo” I hate titles bc I used to be and still shi* 4 it, she convinced me to quit but I cant do the same 4 her. I’ve nvr cried at night bc of someone before, its worse bc she does the same…

If she wants to break up with you then there is really nothing you can do. You can beg, plead and tell her how much you love her but if she wants to break up then she will.

Maybe it would be best for you to just focus on moving on.

Yeah. You can. You’ll be amazed at how much strength people have inside. You’ll get over her. People lose their partners of decades to death, and they find strength to move on and find love again. It will suck. No way around that. But give it enough time and the sucking will end. And you’ll find someone else. You cant force her to be in a relationship with you. It probably hurts her a lot to be far away from you. It’s like an open wound that never heals. If you care about her, and yourself, you’ll let that wound close so you can both move on…

and open relation ship ? she said she still love me but im just to far away so would a open relation ship work?

There’s really no way to force her to stay in a relationship with you. If she’s not happy and you love her then you need to let her go.

With an open relationship you and her would be able to date other people. Most likely that wouldn’t work. How would you feeling knowing that she’s dating other guys while she is still dating you?

As Ty said, you will be able to move on from this. You will find your inner strength and you’ll be fine, maybe not right away but as time goes on it will get easier.

Long distance relationships are hard. I know, I’m in one.. They only work if both parties are willing to endure it. If one party can’t then the whole thing falls apart. In this case that’s what has happened. If you love her you have to let her go. If it’s meant to be she’ll come back. If she stays the pain only gets worse and that can start to turn into resentment and that will end up ruining any chances of survival. Best to salvage the friendship that remains. You’re still young, plenty of time…