Why can't I get up the guts to tell my mom I'm Wiccan?

It’s difficult telling someone you love that you don’t exactly agree or believe in the same things they do. This is especially the case if you know someone’s passionate about what they believe in. Since her religion is very important to her, it’s understandable that it makes you feel uncomfortable or nervous telling.

If you are serious about telling her, though, you have to tell her your beliefs in a way that won’t offend her or make her feel like you’re disrespecting her set of religious beliefs. Don’t tell her that you think the bible is a bunch of BS, even if you think it is. That would be the wrong approach to take.

I’d start off by telling her that recently you’ve been exploring religion and your beliefs, and that you’ve found some that you believe in and would like to follow. Explain that they’re different from her beliefs, but that they mean a lot to you. Let her know that if she has questions, that you’d love to answer any she may have. Then, let her process it.

She may not accept it right away, but she is your mother. She will love you regardless, and she will come to terms with it in time.

Hmmm… maybe you should first discuss the principle of absolute freedom of religion in your family.

I’m sure your mom will agree that everyone should have the right to follow his religion and not be forced or compelled into any other religion.

She would not want the Muslims, the Atheists, the Russian Orthodox Christian Church, Jehovas Witnesses or anyone else to come along and force her to acknowledge that their religion is the only true/valid religion and hers is wrong. So she also can’t force anyone to acknowledge that her religion is the only true/valid religion.

If she doesn’t agree to that, (I mean if she insists that everyone in the worls should have her religion) keep your being wiccan secret until you move out. If she does agree that everyone should be free to follow whatever religion he thinks is right, you have a premium argument for having the right and freedom to chose another religion than the one your parents taught you.

thanks so much! btw, nice name lol :)

I yet have to tell my atheist mom that I decided to follow discordianism. I chose my nickname to be in accord with the discord btw….

If you really stand for your religion, you should just go for it. So what if she say you’ll ho to hell. You know there’s no hell, don’t you? If you are not ready to tell your mom, then you’re may not as devoted to your believes as you think.

I told my dad VERY casually. I brought up the concept of religion in a conversation and slipped in a ‘yeah, I’m Wiccan’. If you are calm about it then physcologically speaking, so should she. If she’s not then calmly explain that you believe what you believe and your beliefs will NOT change for anyone. Also expain that you are very serious and that you have studied and understand it all.

Astrid, what response would you suggest if Fides’s mom (or anyone’s) is all for religious freedom, but then says, “Not while you live in my house!”?

“accord with the discord” lol :)

I have already discussed religious freedom with my mom, and she said that i can choose my own faith.

Congratulations, Fides!

Trenth: I can’t see how somebody could voluntarily choose to believe in something that he/she doesn’t believe him. You can pretend but if you do not believe, then being forced to pretend will not make you more faithful. So a parent can make you pretend to believe in something you don’t believe in. And they can make you visit their church and they can also hinder you from visiting your own church/temple. But they can not turn your faith around. So if someone is in that situation, it’ basically a “my own faith or hypocrisy till I move out” situation. And I’d try to communicate it that way.

I was extremely embarrassed when i told my mother that i follow the path of the Wiccans. I thought she would laugh at me and tell me im stupid for believeing in spells and witchcraft. But when i did tell her, she supported me, even though at times she will make comments about it that make me uncomfortabel i know she only says it to jibe me. Maybe just sit her down and tell her… and if she isnt ok with it then try and explain to her that we arent devil worshippers that sacrafice tiny babies :L show her some books, your B.O.S (if you have one) or maybe some internet research. Blessed be <3