Is it a good idea to talk to your boyfriend about the future?

I would say it is an excellent idea- my boyfriend and I have always talked openly about anything like this and it feels reassuring to know the other person’s stance. It helps you confirm you are both going in the right direction and can help you notice any discrepancies in your future plans. He, for example, may never want children, but you want a large family. It is important to know these things as then you can work out if you may be willing to compromise what you want long term for this person and maybe not achieve it. If you aren’t then you need to find someone who wants similar.

I think you should just bring up that your sister is pregnant and it has made you think about kids. Say you are not sure if you want them, and definitely not for a few years, and ask if he has ever thought about having any too. You can easily street the conversation in the direction ‘what happens if I get pregnant?’ once you know how each other feel on the matter, as neither of you will feel that the other is desperate to have a baby and get freaked out about it.

Communicating like this is part of a good, healthy, adult relationship so good ahead =) it shows maturity to want to say these things, but if he does respond badly he is probably just not as grown up as you yet. Remember, if he is not ready to discuss the outcome and consequences, he is not really ready to have sex. Good luck.