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My father had a daughter named April from a previous marriage. Obviously, the marriage wasn't all fine and dandy and his wife restricted him from being anywhere near her and her child from then on..or else he'd have to consent to handcuffs and solitude in a prison cell. He marries my mom, I am born, things don't work out, mommy gets a divorce, and I dont see him anymore except for once in a while. Twice, I've gotten into a scuffy with him. Whereas he punches me in the face or beats the he11 out of me. Great. So much for a loving father. So I don't ever want to see the bastard again, right? I HATE HIM. (He beat up my mom when she was pregnant with me too!! spell CRAZY, anyone? )
A few months later, I get a call from my long lost half sister, April. Apparently she's looking for daddy dearest, because she only knew him when she was a baby. I'm thinking, OH HEY! MORE FAMILY! LOVE LOVE LOVE JOY LOVE!! and I greet her with open arms.
But all she does everytime we speak on the phone is talk about how she wants to see that scoundrel of a man.
That LUNATIC of a man.
So I get all prissy and decide never to answer her phone calls again.
I found out that she met my dad yesterday. Which explains the 12 missed calls from her on my cellphone.
I was overwhelmed with fury.
You see, the thing is. I know its wrong for me to feel this way. I shouldn't disrespect daddio.. blah blah blahh And I certainly shouldn't let her wishes bother me any twinge of a bit at all.
But it does. IT BUGS ME.
I want to be kinder to her, because she's been trying to reach me all day today as well. I want to share that mutual sister loving feeling again. And I don't want anything involving my dad to infuriate me like such.
Advice, anyone? Anyone?
I know the other person on here said to avoid talking about your father to her but you could still explain to her why you didn't call her back and are so mad all of a sudden, unless you didn't let on that you were mad on the phone. Maybe she has no idea why you got so huffy all of a sudden on her when all she was, was curious. Unless you already did try explaining things to her. Then again, it would make sense that you might be afraid to tell April bad things about your dad because then she might tell him what you said and then he might try to hurt you. Hmm so that puts you in a bad situation. Unless he can't get to you anymore, or can he? Or maybe she's trustworthy and can keep things confidential. Your call.
If she wants to meet him, that's fine. It does not have to effect you at all. She might not know him like you do. That's nice that you want to protect her from him in a way, but at the same time, you can't protect everyone. She has to live her life and find out some things on her own. Maybe in time, she'll think he's a jerk too. Until then, don't worry about it. If talking about him gets you upset, let her know it. If she wants to have a relationship with you, then she'll find something other than your father to talk about.
look I would hate him to if he hit my mom and me Ide go physcho on him actually but dont do that you dont have to ever talk to him actually but forgive him any way and if he hit you again Ill come down there and handle him my self only kidding and on the other hand you could report abuse to the police im not telling you you should its all up to you but on the sister thing if she wants to meet him its okay it doesnt have to affect you or seperate you.
it sounds like you love her already, because of your wanting to protect her from him. just realize that she probably has not known any father in her whole life, and this is a chance for her to know the person he really is, and not who she imagines him to be. Just try to talk to her, but just avoid talking about him to her.
I'm just afraid he's going to put on a face for her :(
He does that with everyone and even convinced a lady cop that I was a stupid child when I tried telling her he was threatening to beat the crap out of me.
Oh wells. THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT.
Maybe you should keep talking to your sister but just don't get angry over her wanting to be with her father and you should just not speak to him and be friends with your sisters.
