My girlfriend and I are in high school. Her best friend that is a guy is always around. It makes me so angry. In the mornings at her locker, hes there. At lunch, hes there. At the end of the day, hes there. When i say to her that i don't like him around that much. She says that they have been best friends sense the beginning of middle school. He rides her bus and has her lunch as well. But I hate it, i get mad and then we argue. In my opinion when you're in a relationship you shouldn't hang around people of the opposite sex. I mean just a little bit isn't bad, but he is always there. And if they hung out outside of school i would freak out. Her opinion is obviously different from mine. He hasn't given me a reason to not trust him yet, but I'm just a protective, territorial boyfriend. I love her with all my heart and I honestly don't think she would ever do anything like cheat or anything to hurt me. But i wake up every morning stressed and worried about if she will leave me for him. I feel like hes better than me because hes around more during school. I don't have any classes or anything with her during school so I only see her during the morning and at her house. But she says hes just a good friend to her. But the other day we got into a bad argument about it, and i explained to her how bad this problem effects me. And she said next semester when we switch classes, she would stay away from him more and hang around with me more because this semester she can't really help it. Well I'm done explaining the problem, I hope i can get some help. Thank you.
It is not right for you to say she cant be with her friend, (I have been in that position as "the friend" and am in it right now) if they were Best friends for that long you can't say dont be around him that much, i know you are not wanting to here this and i feel for you i really do. but it;s just not a "noble" thing to say to her. You say you trust her, then prove it. show her that you are fine with her spending time with her Best Friend. Also the part about ot hanging with opposite sex when your in a realtionship, NO MY FRIEND, you are very wrong their, Males and Females can spend time with the oppisite sex when their in a realtionship. I sinceraly hope this helps. i am in a situation where a friend of mine, her boyfriend is very overcontolling and well if you look at my profile you can see my question and what not ( YOU DONT HAVE TO, i just venting here i am still pissed about it) sorry! anyways dont be the overcontoling and Over-Protective Boyfriend, please dont my friend it just hurts everyone in the end. hope this helps Brother!
There is nothing wrong with her paying a lot of attention to her friends...she would be smothering you if she was focusing on you all the time. I have a similar attitude about relationships. I recently discovered that I have to focus on and enrich my own life outside of my romantic life. In her mind you do not define her as a person. She will admire you more if you grow as a person and still make time for her when you can. Besides, you are still young. Not only will you meet other people but you will find that achieving your personal goals are what is most important right now. Trust me. I learned all this the hard way.
You are very insecure. If she really wanted to be with him, she would have been with him a long time ago. If you were mature, you would understand that people can hang around other people of the opposite sex if they're in a relationship. This guy is her best friend and you should try to get to know him because he is an important person in her life. If you keep causing drama because of her best friend, she will start to resent you. Get over the fact that she has a friend who's a guy. Just because he has a pen!s doesn't mean she automatically wants to get with him. Love comes with trust.
Kaheelee is right. You are insecure about this. It is not irrational. She is also correct about getting to know him as a friend. You will soon discover what this guy is about. He probably has some kind of secret reason for wanting to be close to her. It probably isn't even what you think it is. Perhaps he has difficulty making friends or something. Only with an open mind and heart will you discover the friend she has in him.
You're jealous...and thats a problem. Thats her best friend and the firsting you should know is a girl isnt gonna give up her best friend over a jealous guy. Have faith in your relationship and learn to trust her...a best friend is a best friend and it is sooooooo completly wrong to just ditch then for soneone you lije. If you really like her you'll try to accept her and her best friends because that makes her happy
If she knew him before you and wanted to be with him she would be. You would think. I believe that two reasonably attractive people cannot spend a lot of time together (assuming they enjoy doing so) without there being some kind of sexual tension. He might be homosexual.
Oh... Well you need to understand that this isn't the same girl. You can go on being the way you are now or you can change. Don't blame your ex for the way you are, you have every power in you to change.
I agree with what you said and I'm going to do what i can to fix the problem. Another problem I have is that she doesn't pay attention to me she pays more attention to her friends when I'm around.
I know that I am. I tell myself every single day that i trust her and nothing will happen. But my last serious relationship I was to trusting in her and i got cheated on. It gave me trust issues.
And no jealousy isnt cute. I dont know why people think its cute because its not. It just means you dont trust your psrtner or you're controlling
:) Thank you so much. I will do my absolute best for this girl. She is the reason I get up every morning:)!