me and this kid name Alex met this year in 9th grade in the 3rd day of school. Hes in my 2nd and 8th period class. We were so close that everyone thought we were dating. He will always make fun of me and shit, but I thought he felt the same way as I felt for him, so I tould this guy that friends with me and him to tell alex I liked him, but alex nevered responded back to me so I got piss, and I tould that guy to tell alex I hate him. In 8th period alex was talking to me saying that he felt horrible but he doesn't like no one in this school and that he doesn't want a relationship now, he also told me not to cry no more and the bell ring and he gave me a hug. so I felt bad and lied and said ok fine I don't hate you, then the lie was killing me so I went like a week later and tould alex that I hate him, and so he hates me I know it, but I don't understand is that he always stares at me and doesn't say nothing to me. it been like three months since we haven't spoked. So I am asking if I should go up to him and say I'm sorry but I am just scared if he will ignore me and walk away?!
Oh gosh. That is one twisted story. You told him that your liked him and then when he didnt respond, you're saying that all that feeling of "like" turned into "HATE"? You know, hate is a strong word.. You REALLY HONESTLY hate him? The thing is, if you really believe you hate him, I don't see why you should be thinking about him. If you dont hate him though, you should go apologize to him. It's kind of your fault for saying such a terrible thing to Alex and he kind of has the right to be pissed. In my opinion though, you dont hate him. You probably said that out of anger at him for not responding to you. If he looks at you but doesn't say anything, he either likes you (as a friend or more, dunno) and misses you, or he is just angry at you. Depends on how he is looking at you. You definitely owe him an apology though, I doubt you would have been happy if Alex had told you he liked you, and after you didnt respond to him, he told you he hated you.
yea.. that last sentence you wrote nevered crossed my mind. like I was just mad I didn't really hate him, I just don't think before I speak everything just comes out. I want to say sorry cause it been 3months since what I said but the first time I gave up and said ok fine I don't hate you but I lied and the lie was like killing me and so I said the truth a week later.but I didn't meant that hate. I want him to be my friend again I want to tell him I am sorry but I am just scared if he will hurt me, I understand what I said was wrong, I am going to say I am sorry but I am just scared if he not going to forgive me or just walk away. I know no matter what I am going to say I am sorry, I just have to accept on what he going to say back or do, but the only thing I am scared is if he ignores me or wont forgive me.?
I don't think you hate the guy, I think that you were just really embarrassed and tried to make him feel bad. Telling someone you hate them because they don't have feelings for you is super childish. You're in high school now, you need to stop this elementary school drama. Do the right thing. You need to apologize to him for being so mean. Telling someone you hate them is hurtful, especially if he didn't do anything wrong. Once you apologize, the ball is in his court. If you guys were really "best friends", a small problem like that shouldn't have affected it so much.
yea.. thank you. like we were close till I said wat I said. everyone says at skool to like say your sorry others say no. but I am going to. But I don't know if he will for give me that's my problem right there? but thanks for your help means a lot (:
Apologizing is hard because you have to swallow your pride... But it's totally worth it. And do it in person. If he is still angry about it then you did what you could. He'll get over it in time but just let him know that you're over it already.
well, if you guys really were as good friends as you claim, then I'm sure he will forgive you. Just be honest and tell him the truth about how you didn't think before saying it and that you dont hate him. Things may go fine. Goodluck.