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I feel the exact same way...its as if we know the answer, I mean all of us deep down know what we have to do if we took ourselves out of the equation and said what would we advise someone else if they would be in this situation and we know what we would say & do...yet if we switch the roles...we couldnt! Its as if we would be frozen...like ahhh, I know what I have to do, but actually doing it is the hold up...like something stopping us.
Now we must question what is stopping us...is it fear...or fear of feeling vulnerable after we let things go? Feeling as if now that we hv dealt with our issue, what's left to worry about?! Like if someone came to you & said(hypothetical situation here!) "I am in an abusive relationship & I know I need to leave but if I do then I will be alone & in emotional pain for what happened & wind up blaming myself for being alone & vulnerable...so rather then leaving I deal with the abuse & blame myself for getting the abuse rather then saying no, its their fault...and I need to walk away while feeling strong & confident for actually doing so because I am worth more."
We all hv issues...none of us are perfect & those whom think their lives are perfect are simply in denial! Yet it's always easier to give advice to others then take our own advice. :(
I agree 100%...it's as if we have built walls so strong we cant seem to knock them down...and every issue in which we have put up those walls is another challenge meaning another hard wall we have to knock down. Sometimes it's just too hard to knock down alone & we just may need another to help us break through those walls one by one. The fact of the matter is sometimes we have them but they can only stand there & cheer us on as we begin doing just that...and sometimes it just takes way too much energy to do so we just clam up & walk away saying we will try it tomorrow, only that next time doesnt happen for a while...and the walls are right where we left them. Holding us down...keeping us from our true desires in life. I would say it's more then a learning process...its more of an inner strength process...the will and the power to pick ourselves up, and say..."enough feeling sorry for ourselves, enough allowing others hurt us, enough of putting others before us but most of all enough of letting others push us around as if we are worthless!"
Now, lets pick up that hammer...and make the first h!t...at least begin the process of tearing down 1 brick at a time, so eventually we can have the strength to knock down the whole wall! ♥
some times its sooo easy giving advice to people and tell them to have commitments to improve their life and make their life turn out to be Gold! Because some times iam kicking my shoes off and i give orders and advice to my bff and ask her to change or improve her life but i dont really realize how hard it is... till i try to do that so!!! yeah i dont always follow mine!
Exactly what I wanted to say. We do sub-consciously know the right thing to do but for some reason there is often something stopping us. I wish I had the ability to let go of that restraint and go with the RIGHT thing. Perhaps it's a learning process?
I try sure, but it is easier said than done. I try to you know, and I know that atleast I have done it once because I give advice based on what I have expirianced or what I pick up from other people, but yeah I try but not alway succed.
No, but I would like to. My friends always come to me for advice and sometimes I think why don't I take my own advice. Can this be seen to be hypocritical? Maybe, yes but hey it's easier said than done.
Nope, I probably shoud though I'd make my life much easier, but somehow it is much harder to follow it than to give it.
noo, and it's so annoying - i can give advice, but when i need it it is never there, typical! :)
No. I don't always follow mine. Sometime i just try someone else's advices and see if they work.
No, because no two circumstances are the same. Advice I give one person may not work for me.
easier to give it then take it.. haha oops that sounded dirty..
No way, awkward silence I'm starting to try to, though.