how can i fix my dysfunctional family?

Details would help us to understand better. Could you explain what you mean by dysfunctional? So we could tell you whether you can actually do something or not?

theres fighting at my house everyday.no resolved problems or trust.police come over like once a month.and whenever we all try to get together it always in a fight.usually between my aunt,mom,grandma,and cousin.

Sometimes I don’t think this kind of thing is a matter of fixing, but a matter of accepting. Some families just don’t function well and have tons of hardships, and I think it might be good to just accept your family the way it is and look past all the problems :) Family is there for support.

i try but it gets too a point where i cant take it and my brother even threatened if it does not stop or get better he was taking me my sister and brother and getting us a little apartment.

Y’all need a role model:

Try “ Malcolm in the Middle “..

– Best wishes - Majikthise.

that might be for the best

Oh dear :/ I’m sorry honey. I don’t know what to say but good luck. Sometimes things at home for me can get bad too - so if you ever just need to talk then just funmail me.

Counselor, works all the time.

Don’t. Families that are dysfunction are bound to be more interesting than ones that actually get on. I should know. Every day is like a war in my house D: And what you said about the police, yeah I’ve had that happen. Surely fighting will only make you a stronger unit. It might seperate family members like I haven’t seen my mum for 5 years after she was arrested too many times and I gave up on her, me and my dad hate each other but I am very close to my older brother, older sister and little brother. Fighting has helped me learn who to trust.

*just an opinion. (^_^)

This issue will never be able to be resolved. I would know because my family is the same way. You will try and try and try and honestly you will only be frustrated. Your best bet is to move out if you cannot handle it. That will be your only way of escaping the madness.

welll, i read this book once & it was the answer to ALLLLLLL of my household problems, my house was cleaner, my family was happier, and i was stronger. the book was ‘Sink Reflections’ by Marla Cilley [ FLYLADY]

Move 12 hours away… and don’t follow the example that was set for you. Visit once per year… and they won’t seem so bad.