How do you find your brother that you never met because your mum put him up for adoption?

I am adopted and I found my biological family. Let me help you! First things first. You need to get your information out there. Go on adoption . com fill out all of your information and the information you know about your brother. Like his date of birth, how old your mum was when she had him, his birth name if he had one, Where he was born, all the information you have.

An adopted child is usually always looking for answers about their life history. If it was a completely closed adoption, there may be chances he knows nothing about anything. That’s even saying if he knows he’s adopted at all. some adoptive parents don’t even tell the child that they are adopted.

I’m not sure where you are from, because I didn’t check first. Assuming you are saying mum, instead of mom you are from Oz, UK or somewhere aside from the usa where I am from. Here we have agencies that assist in the searching process. Birth family, Adopted family and adopted child. You would be considered biological or birth family.

You must understand this too. He has his mum and dad that are raising him, he may have siblings too. It may take him awhile, if and when you find him, to accept you as a sibling. Don’t be hurt or surprised. I took on to all 4 of my siblings fast, but they all didn’t take on to me fast.

You also must understand your mum might not want you to open this can of worms. But you should let her know that you want to do this. It is your right to search. I have helped families where the biological mother wants nothing to do with it. But the siblings are so close. and that’s ok. But just respect your mothers feelings during all of this. And know that your brother will probably ask about all of it. Be considering how to explain. If your mum wants to be part of it? WONDERFUL! prepare her too.

Good luck on your search!

differnt parts of the uk call their mom either mom, mum, ma, mam..

the usa only calling their mom mom is not true either.

its whats known as an old wives tale.

just so you know for the future :p

thanks :) this helps a lot, however, im not talking to my mum and i cant rember his birth name but i could ask my step sister if she knows anything because her das is the father. I know that she is curious :)

thanks :) this helps a wee bit

@matt - i do know that. I was basing that comment more on the fact we use mom where i’m at and my cousin who live i australia use mum. My kids call me mama or mother, so mom isnt even used in my house! I could have worded that better. :)

@misslisaaloo sorry you aren’t talking to her. Whatever information you can find out and use is helpful. the more you use the better chance of him finding you. if he’s looking. Good luck and let me know if I can help you!