Why do I feel like my mom hates me?

I dont hate her, I do everything I can to try to make her proud and happy. But I’m still never good enough, she’s never around, she doesnt talk to me much, and when she does, she just shouts at me

Then its better to ignore whenever she says something and you think its it is without any reason,keep doing well in your studies and do whatever it takes to be innocent…at least do enough that at last she will not have any reason to yell at you…after this is she shouts at you,no need to answer her back in a rude way,when she is calm,you talk to her about it,what was the reason and what else can you do to make yourself better..

*if she shouts

Okay thanks… I guess that helps

Let me rephrase that… Thanks for the advice

your mum does love you mums have a tendency to nag because they want the best for you. :)

y dont you talk to ur mom and tell her how u feel? ask her y is she so frustrated with u and what u can do to improve?!!

Because you’re a teenager. Now I have no doubt some parents are capable of hating their own kids. But what you’re describing is something that happens to a lot of people when they hit 14. You’re at an age where unfailing obedience doesnt exist. And your mother is trying to navigate it the same as you. Now, some parents are not capable of showing how proud they really are of their kid. My mother took it for granted that I’d be getting straight As. So when did I hear from her, when I got one B+. Is that annoying now, yes. But it was really upsetting when I was younger. The thing is, I simply accepted that although she was really proud of the good work I did, showing it is simply not something she is great at. Although, after I discussed it with her (I didnt yell, I simply pointed out that I felt like she didnt care when I put effort into my school work), she has tried to be better about it. How do I really know that she’s proud, because she brags to other people… Yeah, I pretty much hid out in my room avoiding my mom through high school. It didnt really work. So try talking to her. First thing, breathe. Try to calm down. Yelling or getting upset is not going to help. Then explain how you feel. My mum is critical. She gets that from her mom. When I pointed out that she doesnt like getting criticized all the time, and that it is unhelpful to constantly nag at me (especially while I am driving), she actually has gotten better. The thing is, you have to see your mother as a person, a human being who makes mistakes. Someone who cares about you and is doing the best she can. And someone who loves you very much. If she hated you, she wouldnt be bothered with what you were doing. Who cared if you were doing well or not, why waste time after someone you don’t care about? So obviously she cares very much. And, I will bet that if you start viewing her in that way, your behavior will change in response to hers. And as you change, so will she. But it will take time and a little patience. And as a gesture of good will, go do something nice for her to show your appreciation (and dont be upset if she isnt visibly thrilled, when you do something unexpected, people are suspicious and dont know how to react, she will still appreciate it, I promise).