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Ok this is going to be a loong story lol. Well me and this grl have dated for about 3 years and during the 3 years there has of course been problems. During one of our fights I told here that we should take some space for eachother and during that time she dated 2 of my friends and slept with both of them once becuase she got the idea that I told her that we were through for good. During the space period, she called me and asked her to tell her I loved her because she missed me saying it and I turned her away. Im not sure if it was before or after the “friend” situation. Anyway, I felt that it was ok becuase we weren’t technically dating and she just wanted to replace me. In fact she even told me thats what she wanted to do. We started seeing eachother again and it seemed like magic again. We ended up breaking up over the summer and not speaking for about 3 months. We ended up talking again lol and she had sex with another dude only once and to me it seemed like the same thing all over again. Once again we started dating, now I feel like I have pushed her away again because its hard for me to trust her but I want to because I know I still love her and that she could possibly be the one. I know its difficult to beleive and I even wonder what the hell im doing. Anyway, I feel like I pused her away again and now shes seeing another guy. They havent done anything but she likes him. It seems as though its the same situation over and over again. Its hard for people to understand I know, but you have to seriously be in the situation. While they were talking I still gave her rides to school in the morning and I never understood why I did but I have stopped. The point of this whole thing is that its our senior year and I feel so lost. When I think of her with this guy my heart literally aches and it seems as if the world has turned its back on me and that im alone. Me and her have been through so much and no one understands her like I do and she has even said so. I just want to know if I should just let her go, or fight to keep her.

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Answer #1

Your only feeling lost because youve been with this one person for 3 yrs. Its all you know! When 2 ppl break up, and the other runs to the arms of someone else (not once, but 3 times with 3 different guys) its not saying much for the feelings she had for him. Shes someone whos lost and is seeking love through sex! You guys may have been through alot together, but it doesnt sound like you had a healthy relationship! She sounds so much like my exs ex. They would break up and she would have sex with some guy for whatever reason! And he would just keep taking her back! I dont know how you can keep trying to put back a relationship after that keeps happening! I would think somewhere down the road you start to break down after awhile. Like you are. If she can keep moving on from guy to guy, what is that telling you? Her love for you cant be true! When 2 ppl have been together as long as you two have, your still gonna feel something for that person. Its like a habit! You have to try and move on, to somehting alittle more stable! She sounds like she has some insecurity issues, and thats why she is doing what shes doing. She needs a guy in her life, or she feels like she is nothing without one! I would let her go, because it sounds like she is making you more miserable than she is making you happy!! Good Luck!!

Answer #2

honestly, i understand why you feel the need to stay and fight for her, but the truth is hun, she isnt worth it. Understand something, if she loved you as much as she says she does, why on earth out of all the guys in the world would she sleep with one of your own mates! (btw your mates are not nice to sleep with their mates ex!) i get she covered her ass by saying (i wanted to replace you) and you were not together so she can do what ever she wants, but you have to be pretty low to sleep with your mates! when someone loves someone sooooooo much, if they break up its too hard to think about someone else lil own sleeping with someone, if she wanted you that bad she should have fought for you, not slept with other guys, she obviously wasnt hurting that much. I understand why you dont trust her, if she seriously loved you she would stop chasing after other guys every opportunity she gets away from you and fight for you, prove to you that you can trust her and she loves only you, instead she keeps repeating the same mistakes over by getting with other guys, do you want to spend your life worrying about her? you deserve someone who is going to love you no matter what and who is going to be there thru everything and not run off with some guy as soon as you go thru a bad time, you will find her! shes out there and you’ll find her in time, you deserve alot better hun!

Answer #3

you must truly love her if you are willing to forgive her running to other men but like you say there is a difference between forgiving and trusting again..and you can’t trust someone who has their heart set on someone else at the moment..my advice is to continue being nice to her..be her friend as much as she allows without overstepping the mark or interfering with her new relationship..if she still loves you deep down she will not let you completely go and she will return to you eventually…if she does let you go then you need to move on

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