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girls that want ther father to f*ck them
this is what my dad has been searching on the internet and I am really scared to be here. I dont know what to do though. I am so creeped out by this. what does it mean?
Yeah, but when you r young and something like this is going on you just don't know what to do. I,also, was molested by my own father when I was about 11 or 12. And sometimes when you tell someone what's going on they either say you are lying or just kind of blow it off. That's what happened with me, although I was older when it happened I told my mom about it and all she said was that his father (her ex father-in-law had done the same to her!!! Then we never discussed it again until several mths ago. She said she realizes now that she treated it the wrong way back then, and that after I had told her she remembered back to around that time and realized that I had never gone back to visit/stay over to his house anymore. Ok...off task here. Sorry!
I don't think his looking at these sites is just normal curiosity. My husband is disgusted by the idea of those websites with father and daughter. And my point with telling about my being molested was regarding. --anonymous mother-- I can't imagine my father having sex my daughter, matter of fact--I would kill him!! Another thing about my situation was /is my Dad is a recovering alcoholic and was drunk when he molested me. Now, since he probably doesn't remember doing it, he wonders why I am so distant to him. He's asked my mom several times, she's told me she doesn't feel its her place to tell him. With which I agree. Now,I'm really glad to see him sober for the first time in my life. My dilemma--let it go and continue to work through it (I have had counseling) or do I risk his sobriety by telling him and finally giving him the answer to his questions??
Back to our girl..I think she needs a safe house and needs to go there quickly. I also feel she needs to talk to her counselor!!
Unless he is really good with a computer he will not know how to completely delete the history of all of his internet searches. DO NOT talk to him, DO go to your school counselor and talk to him/her. Understand. Under the circumstances they will need to contact Child Protective Services. BUT, before you talk to them find some place to stay!! Do you have relatives nearby that you could stay with as soon as you talk to your counselor? If not, maybe a BFs house,let her parents know what's going on and why you need to stay there. Start with family 1st as CPS will be more accepting to you staying with family. After you talk to every1-_--- do not go back into the house again by yourself. He will probably be angry and you want someone (preferably an adult) there to help protect you if needed and as a witness. Until you are ready to talk to your counselor, try to spend time away from home as much as possible. Leave little time alone with him. Spend the night with GFs as much as you can. I don't remember if you mentioned if alcohol was involved, but if it is those are times you really don't want to be home alone with him. Unfortunately, those are the times he may feel braver and follow through with his thoughts If he touches you again and you feel uncomfortable IMMEDIATELY call CPS whether you have lined up a place to stay yet or not. you DO NOt have to take that kind of behavior. Hope this helps at least in figuring out a plan. I know it will never help with the anger, fear, and betrayal that you are probably feeling right now. Take care, email me if you would like to talk.
I don't think she should speak to him about it at all.
1: She was snooping through the computer. 2: He will most likely be embaressed that his daughter caught him looking at porn. 3: He's a grown man and can look at porn when he wants too. 4: It most likely not even what it seems. Porn is nothing more but a masterbation tool - I'm sure he was just looking at porn and has a type of fetish. That does NOT mean he will act out on this fetish or could ever look at his own children that way. I know plenty of people who look at that type of porn - it doesn't mean they would ever do it. They are just enjoying watching sex on the internet period.
I think your taking this too far and reading into something that is nothing.
"I don't think his looking at these sites is just normal curiosity."
I agree in this particular case - but not in all cases. I know plenty of people that look at those types of sites just for pleasure. It's not a real father/daughter in the films, and the girls is of age to be in porn - it's just a role playing skit that is done and is very popular in pornography - looking at it does not make you sick or perverted. Most of the time only one thing is said in the whole porn about them being father/daughter (remember it's fake and the whole purpose is just about sex)
Although, in this particular case - I would be worried since he has been touching her.
Allright,
I answered her question before I read her previous question - she left that part out of it.
Honestly, she should have left the first time he touched her period. I am a rape victim myself and anytime something like that happens - you have to get away.
Although I have to disagree with you on the porn thing - most of those "daughters" are actually adults that just look really young. They are legitimate porn stars and are of age - they just look younger than they are.
I was only arguing that looking at certain porn sites means nothing - although her previous post says she needs to get out.
Mandyloo, this a rare time that I don't agree with u. He has touched her in a way that made her feel really uncomfortable. And if something makes you that uncomfortable its a red flag your body is sending out!! If they share the computer I don't feel that looking through the history is violating his privacy. Porn is one thing, child molestation/abuse is another. Most of those sites the "daughters" are more than likely underage, possibly runaways. Mandyloo, how can you not hear warning bells ringing here?? Doesn't anyone else? Still luv ya Mandyloo!!
People have random fetish's all the time. They aren't open about them though. I myself look at crazy fetish's on the internet - that does not mean that I would participate in them.
Also, sometimes when you are looking at porn - it can be daughter/father porn and you don't even realize it. It could be that he just likes seeing a younger - more real looking woman in the porn that he watches instead of the big fake boobed women.
I honestly think that calling CPS is going WAY to far for something like this. It could be completey innocent.
Honestly,
Was it porn sites? Because if that's what it was - then it could be nothing more than a secret fetish. Just because he was looking at a porn site where so called fathers sleep with their daughters does not mean in ANY way that he would participate in such an activity.
well I dont think he would look at this fetish ( because its a little random and out of left field )
maybe if he is looking over your shoulder when you are on the computer...make the history seen see if he says anything
maybe tell your mom or another close adult
how do you know that he has been searching this? has he done anything else to make you question that he is a sexual predator?
have you talked to him about it?
funmail me and I'd be happy to help you out.
She's not just going to blurt out "I was spying on you seeing what you'd been on you old perve..."
sound innocent or trick him in to going on to history and uncovering it himself in front of you!!!
carry a form of weapon in your pocket???
start making plans to move out, you must have a friend or relative???
good point madyloo, but surely thinking like this is taking an unnecessary risk???
speak to him about it.
yeah thats pretty strange, talk to him about it but don't be nice or anything like thta
I saw that on my father computer and now I cant be comfortable around him
The feeling of fear is your natural instinct to get out! Do it!
he might be looking up a twisted type of porn
