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because I hate only my mom.
When I was 5 my parents literally gave me to my Grandmother and Grandfather. They were heavily into drugs and stealing and various other petty crimes. As I grew up I'd stay with them on weekends and go back to my grandparents on weekdays. Whenever I stayed with them I witnessed horrible domestic violence, drug and alcohol abuse and much more.
When I was eight I called the police on my father for attacking my mum. And when I was twelve I remember one morning when I was making "too much" noise with my brother, my mum yelling at me, calling me a mistake, a horrible child, and hitting me until I cried so much I couldn't breath.
As I grew older I saw less and less of them, and I also less and less of my brother and sisters -who they kept- and my eighteenth birthday I didn't hear from them and I hadn't heard from them in nearly two years. When I turned 20, just recently, I got a completely random text from my mother asking why I never contact them, and why do I hate her.
The point of this description of my mother is this - Children can hate their parents. But its much more complicated than that as well. Since I can remember I've hated my mother for what she has done to me. I fell into an almost depressive state when I was 15. I then went into a deep hatred for her and my father.
I became jealous of my friends - for their parents. I became so angry when they spoke of hating their parents, because unless you have parents like mine, or similar you can't know what it means to hate your parents.
But then finally, when I was about eighteen... I woke up and was over it. I've moved on... I've stopped hating my parents, I've stopped feeling anything for them.. Its not worth it. ANd to be honest.. they could never make up for all the horrible things that I have experienced from them.
But for those who say, that they're my parents and I should love them no matter what... You don't understand. Love is subjective, and while you may not get to choose your family, you may be able to love them.. but you can hate them. But eventually... you'll stop. You'll loose respect and love and be left with nothing... I consider my grandparents my real parents...
To all of the people who say that a person is immature for hating their parents, they need to “grow up”, and “OMG how could you ever say such an evil thing, they gave birth to you!!!” These people have obviously had a caring and wonderful family; one that would love you no matter what. So many children in this world are not quite so lucky. It is very easy to hate a person that is both mentally and physically abusive. Just because a parent gave birth to their child does not mean that they will show them the care and love that they need. In many cases, it was simply a lack of birth control that later resulted in a child. Many parents should have never had the right to be parents at all, but they did not think about the consequences of have sex while in a drunken mess. And yes, we get it that “god made our parents.” He also made rapist and murders. So should we not hate them because god made them? I speak from experience, and it’s not because I am “still young”, or because I am simply mad at my parents because “they won’t let me act 20 years old when I am 13!!” I am a grown woman, and I have dealt with abusive parents. To all of the people who have never had to experience this horrible thing, get off your high horse and stop judging those who have a valid reason to hate the people who gave birth to them. You would be better suited answering questions like “Name all of the reasons why you love your awesome parents!!!”
I hate my mom 2, she is always telling me what 2 do, such as cleaning my room, etc., threathening me, hitting me, and says that that I have an attitude, I dont think I can take this any longer!!! She yells at me, takes away the stuff she didnt pay for, when she hits me, she pulls my hair, slaps me, and kicks me, and I feel like I need more freedom. Im locked up!!! She says I have a big attitude; did you ever want to be left alone?. . . im 12 just so you know, and the people that say I may be 2 young, I just want to be left alone. . . .I wish I could tell her, but she is scary. . . . .help me. . . . . I need some advice. . . I usually cry myself to sleep, and in the morning when im getting ready for school, we fight, and I start crying because I know I cant take this anymore. . . I just want to have a normal mom. . . .I get to school and my teachers ask me why im crying. . . .I cant tell them because im scared that they could call the police because my mom hits me. . . .im too scared to go to a cousler. . . and sometimes, when we get mad at each other, the next day, its like nothing happened. . . . .right now, im so sure she hates me. . . . if someone out there has some advice for me, I would be very grateful. . . .p.s. this fight happened just recently. . . .
I do! I hate both my parents, they get on my last nerves! This morning I asked my mom can I got to a party, and she's like yea sure. but then I asked her did she want me to call her before I leave or I didnt have to... then she's like "Look at her, telling me what to do, like she's the boss." And I'm like WTF I didnt even sound like I was her boss and I didnt tell her what to do, I asked a question! Then out of no where my dad's like you can't go, and I was like but I asked this morning. The he said "Well we hate you now so you can go!" Then this afternoon... we're getting the house re-painted and my mom wants these square boxes thing in MY ROOM! and let me tell you they look retarded and ugly, but does she listens... NO! Then I have a thing to keep my bed up but I dont like it cause it takes to much room, so I told my dad I want to take them off, so my mattress can be on the floor. but then he's like if you want it like that you might as well live in a jungle...WTF!!?? right? I know! GOD!! I HATE MY PARENTS! tell me if you think their retarded! or not cause to me their such dumd people who always tell me what to do and I'm sick of it because I do most stuff in the house but they asll act like I dont even move a finger in this house!! I hate them! >:(
I don't hate my parents though I used too when I was a teenager and when we were going through family problems not too long ago. I really hated my mother for doing things she was doing to me growing up and all that since she favored one of my sisters over me. I hated my father for molesting me as far as touching me inappropriately back in 2005 when I moved out of their house and moved into my own place. I had to get a protective order against him for doing all the inappropriate behavior he did. I'm going through counseling right now to deal with anger I had toward them. I'm starting to forgive them so, I don't nessisarily hate them, just disappointed in them that they could be so angry with me for placing the protective order against my father. My whole family is angry with me. I don't hate my parents as much as I used too when I was in my teens and part of my young adult life. You shouldn't hate your Mother unless she's abusing you or controling you. You have only one mother and father and when they pass away, you regret ever saying anything about hating them. We all have those moments where we hate our parents for different reasons but, we have to be greatful we have them.
my parents are control freaks. I am 17 and not allowed to do anything! the only reason im on the comp rigth now is cause im at my sisters house baby sitting, and I took the laptop my brother gave me (which is not allowed in my room, and I cant be on it for anything other then homework) I cant date, go out with friends, be at the mall by myself, drive, go on walks, go online, talk on the phone in privacy, talk on the phone for more then 15 mins a day with permission, hmmm... cant go to scool functions, cant get a job, cant go to partys, cant do any school activities except for band (excluding jazz, and now marching) if my parents said I did somthing, if I dont respond I get in trouble for ignoring them, if I do respond, im arguing. evrything I've dont wrong has been, according to my mom, because I hate her. I do things to get back at her. the worst thing I've ever dont is skip class! I dont drink or do drugs or steal, yet im their worst and biggest failure as a child. I have my college life and job mapped out, and since my mom wants me to go into medical, she will not support my dreams and ambisions and will find any waay to put me down. very much a mind game player.
sure I hate them. I hate them for not loving me. for the hell they've put me through in my past and right now. I hate that I have to get up everyday and smile at my friends, teachers, class mates everyone and act like they haven't broken me. sure people think I'm a teen with a stupid grudge against my parents which I'll grow out of but I don't think I'll ever forgive them for they have done to me. I hate hearing when teens my age and younger say I hate my parents they yell at me for doing stupid things like sneaking out etc. I've never done that but I can assure you being yelled at is nothing.. nothing...
so yes I hate my parents for making me feel like I have nothing left to live for who make the same bad parenting techniques on my siblings who blame me when their out of control (im not just over exaggerating) they have literally tried to blame me for my dads blood pressure issues
I really couldn't care if they died, my fear would be of not having anywhere to go and my siblings not getting what they need to for future life.. not that their getting much here...
Is there any particular reason why you hate your mother!? Is she abusive or over protective! I remember when I was a teenager, I felt the same way---only my mom was mentally as well as physically abusive. I went through a good portion of my life feeling that way until I started therapy and realized that a lot of the reason she acted the way she did because that is how SHE had been treated while growing up. Then I was 13, she was only 33 compared to the fact that I was 31 when I had my daughter. Her behaviot didn't mean she didn't love me, it was just the only style of parenting she knew. While I attended therapy, she was the asst to a psychologist in our town. We both learned about ourselves which made us realize how the other felt. She admitted to me during a talk we had several years ago that her behavior was wrong and that she knew she had made mistakes with me and she has been trying to be better over the years. Maybe something simiilar is happening with your mom?
Yesterday I wanted to go to the birthday party of my girlfriend (only 3 km away, that's 10 minutes by bike) and my mom wouldn't let me because I didn't have the grades SHE wanted...
some of my grades (I live in Belgium, so everything is in percents): English: 74% Dutch: 79% P.E.: 58% (I have scoliosis and can't take part in some lessons, so that's a good grade since the teacher gives me a 0 for every lesson I don't take part in)
I'm grounded for 6 months, it's that or I have to go to work...
ALL MY MOTHERS IDEA, my dad doesn't approve, I notice, but he doesn't do anything!
I've been thinking to just go away for a few days... I meant to do that with Christmas but didn't have the chance...
I have a friend where I can go and sleep for a few days, but I really don't know...
I hate my mom, can't stand to look at her face... and my dad, he can *** ***
OK I also hate my mother she physicaly and mentally abuses me. she discusts me I can't even stand to look at her! this is how bad I feel, I am afraid to go anywhere for a long period of time (a few days +) because I feel really bad leaving my dad at home to deal with her all the time. she gets drunk or high everyday and goes to the casino and gambles every night and drives home drunk even. I am 16 and my father own a towing company and if she got caught DUIing we would not be able to tow for the CHP, Sherrif, or Border Patrol anymore, (thats basicly all of our bussiness!) it takes all I have sometimes not to kill her and my fuse is running short. What do I do?
Sometimes I can't stand my mom. She is overprotective, mean and rude to me. I wish I didn't feel this way but I do. She claims everything is hers- MY items that I've bought with my own money. She has hit me and been abusive verbally on some ocassions. I wish often that I live with my dad. And for the ones saying people are idiots for not liking their parents- do you automatically like everyone you meet? And not everybody has to say WHY they don't like their parents. Some people aren't good people and sometimes people get stuck with people they can't stand as family. That's just the way it works out.
My parents are evil. Dead serious. They are physically abusive, and are totally irrational. If they dont like something(whether its wrong or not) they punish me often fineing large sums of money. As far back as 8 years old my mom has kicked me out of the house to wander th streets for awhile. And yet I still do what they tell me. Why dont they see that? My mom used to pick me up and throw me to the ground when I was little enough to do that, and my dad has hit me more times than I can count. I feel terrible...
you should go to the police or state of Attorney office and tell them everything you just mention here so they can help you get the relief you need and learn about your human rights. once you learn your rights you won't contunie listening to your parents. be brave and leave your house and choose wisely the substitute sollution. do not choose the street, and carefull choosing your friends. don't trust people easly. be strong , belive in your first instincts. be strong again.
I hate my both my parents they are both very protected of me they wont let me do crap they still think im little im 12 yea sounds little but still they think when im gone 4 2 weeks somewhere they are like you need to come home and they only do it to me they dont do it to my younger brother or sister they delete all my stuff they get in my room and go threw all of it like im hiding something I hate my parents so much
Like I said, my daughtet is 14 (I think I did,maybe not) and she say all the time what you said hjuona, exactly what you said
Yes, we were once teenagers, that's WHY we are over protective and "control freaks". We aren't exactly control freaks. We just know how a teenager thinks AND what a teenager can get into. We know, that's the whole thing right there!! [÷:
I honestly think it's messed up when kids say they hate their parents. I'm nineteen now, but my mom died when I was six and my dad died when I was two.. And once you lose your parents you realize how lucky you are to have them in the first place, but it's too late.. They're already gone. . . . . . Just be thankful for what you got. <3
your an idiot. God made your parents so you have some one else in the world to be with you and love you. not for you to hate. hate is a strong word. you probaly only hate her because you dis-agree with her rules. and now every one across funadvice.com can see your dumb for making that gay profile. and what if your mom found it???
Hate stepdad soo much. Yells at me, drives me insane, says I have an attitude, makes me do all the stupid as *** chores. I want to hit him with my metal bat, but I cant because then ill get sent to juvie! I personally hope he falls off of a cliff, lands on some rocks, and gets a nuke dropped on him!!!
I hate both of my parents so much, but it's because of a personal reason and not some stupid teenager theory. I mean, not to be rude, but people shouldn't be bunched together. I've seen people my age (12) and older that like their parents a lot. I, however, do not.
sometimes because my mom is sooo annoying, she's a control freak. but most of the times, I love her. I don't understand why parents are overprotective, or being control freaks, I mean, they were teenagers once, they should understand
Why do you hate your mother? It's probably because your still so young. Everyone goes through a stage where they just don't get along with their parent. Maybe once you grow up, you'll feel better about it.
u shouldn't hate your parents, no matter what...they either want the best for u, or have problems that you don't know about or who knows, but like twilightmom asked, why do you hate them?
I hate my dad. he is always thinking im a little girl. im now 13 and I am responsible enouf (for the most part) to do things myself. >:(
No, of course I get mad at them and we fight because all people do with their parents, but I don't hate them.
ihatemymom---did you see my question? Is there any particular reason why you hate your mom?
my mum's the bomb, I might say I hate her when im really mad, and I dont even mean it.
I can hate my parents at sometimes, but they can be a little annoying.
why do you hate your mom what did she do 2 u ?!?!?!?!?
I hate my parents! They are so over protective
my dad sometimes because hes hella negative
I heart my parents they rock
Grow up.
