depression and parents issues. please read,.

Keep your chin up, thats the first thing you gotta do! I had the same stuff go on with my parents except I was greatful for the minimum of what you just said, that was a good day for me. You have to be strong, its not your fault that your parents are unhappy, its also not fair that they come and talk to you about there problems it adds extra stress on you and its not your burden to carry, again my parents did that to me (my dad still does) It sounds like your parents need to grow up and realize what is best for you and your siblings if things really are not working then they need to do something about it NOT you. if they dont want to go to counsoling or get a divorce then thats pretty selfish apparently they dont realize how they are affecting the family. You can also talk to them but in my case that never worked because they would just throw that back in my face and use it against me. When it comes to the whole money thing and your parents taking your stuff away and giving it to your sinlings you can simply not except money from your parents and buy your own things with your own money that way if they try to take it away you can politly remind them that YOU baught it and that it is YOURS not thiers to take away. I had to do that since I was about 15 and they still tried to take stuff away but if you work for it and pay for it then they have no right. you need to recognize that your parents are also under a lot of stress for some reason and although its not your job to deal with it you can help in little ways, like say you go spend the day with your siblings or help them with homework ect (plus this will help you become closer to your siblings and thats all you have right now, they know what your going through cuase they are right there with you what ever you do dont lose them or push them away that will be the biggest mistake you can do) if you want to get closer to your parents why dont you actually invite them to do something with you, burn the bridges in a sence, treat your mom or dad to ice cream, ask one of them to go on a walk with you, bullsh*t with them even for a few minutes…it wont eliminate all the stress but it will for that point in time and thats a start…I hope things work out for you keep your chin up

its not your fault. my parents might get a divorce too. I got upset and threw away all the food in the house.(its a long story) just b strong and know theres tons of kids on your same boat

also; your at a difficult age.. you start to take “things” more personal.. A good thing to start is by telling your dad that he has to stop telling YOU things about your mom.. so you can’t be accused of anything ( If I understood everything right..) I’ve been trough somewhat the same thing; but this was after the divorce.. but anyways; keep ya head up; It will make you stronger.. every parents fight, every child feels bad ‘bout this, but there isn’t much you can do about it.. except for talking with both of your parents but I don’t know if this is possible ( it wasn’t in my situation.)

First off, your parents are THE poster children for how to mess up a life…

• “don’t” ever have sex out side of a life long relationship (marriage). Pregnancy really happens, duh.
• “don’t” ever let a 15 year old girl have sex with a teen age boy. Guys 30 and under are total narcissists.
• “don’t” ever let a 15 year old girl date. She’ll get in trouble, duh.
• “don’t” ever let a 15 year old girl hang around guys near her age. Find some dude in his early 30’s, he should have the maturity by then to see her as some thing more than just a sex toy.
• “don’t” … oh crud, I could go on and on.

Here’s the good news. For what ever reason, your parents did the right thing and got married. They may have even done it for you! All is not lost.

What ever you do, stop telling them to get divorced. Divorce is RARELY the answer. It’s like having an infection in your leg, and “curing” it by cutting the leg off!

The problem is, your parents are acting like animals. Why? Because that’s what they’ve been told all their life that they are - by the schools, by society, by the media.

There’s only one solution. As cheesy as it may sound, they need to make up their minds if life has a purpose, if God exists, you know, that sort of thing. If they figure life is just an accident, well, what the heck. Who cares what happens or what you do or how it affects any one?

Forget psychology / counseling, majority of those people are in it for the money. Find a pastor or priest nearby, and scream “Help!”. A good one will come running, for free. Life does have a purpose, and your parents need to understand that. Once they do, they can start changing them selves for the better.

Cheer up, in a short while you are going to be a healthy, happy adult, because you aren’t going to make the same mistakes your parents did.

Are you…?