How do I deal with my mom, dad, and little sister that don't like my girlfriend?

Here is the entire situation. I am 20 years old. I have been dating my current girlfriend for over a year and a half, and I love her with all of my heart. She has made me more happy than I could ever imagine. My friends like her, and my older brothers, sisters, and sister in law like her. However, my mom and little sister do not. They constantly say that she has changed me for the worse, and I know that is not true. I defend my girlfriend every time against my mom and sister because they sometimes call her mean and derogatory names. However, whenever I fight back I get the guilt trip thrown at me with my mom and sister saying they don’t know me anymore. I am getting tired of this stress. It is causing my relationship to become difficult. I am so scared that I am going to lose her because of this problem. She is a very nice person. I want my family to be happy for me, and I love them very much. However, I also love my girlfriend so very much, and I refuse to break her heart over this. I am very tired of this problem, and I am even considering living at my college and just coming home once in a blue moon. Is there anyone out there who can please help me? I am desperate because I want my family to be happy for me. I want me and my girlfriend to have a great relationship without this problem and hopefully move to the next level. I am desperate for advice on how to handle this problem and solve it.

i dont know if this will help but i been through it, worse thing was i was 15, she was 22, and we loved each other, my mom didnt aprove or sis, things got bad and i just sorta let my mom and sis keep their opinons, never fight with them if i already tried to reason, let them yell and scream and stuff, i know it was cause i was the “man” of the house and they didnt want me to be stolen away by some girl, sometimes u cant change peoples opnions, just get used to them, and in the end u got you and your girl, and happiness and people will see that, u never know what will happen

honestly.. theyre ur family, and family is all about support.. they should be happy that ur happy with her.. forget their reasons for not likn her.. it shouldnt even be important to you! if they feel like ur happiness isnt important, then their opinions shouldnt matter.. you should tell them that.. shes your girlfriend, and you love her.. just don’t isolate urself from family.. but when they begin talkn about her, you need to step up and ask them to drop it, because its very disrespectful and unnecessary.. or when you see theyre treating her bad, you tell them nicely to back off.. lol. you should care less about what they think.. its you and your girl.. not you, your girl and the rest of ur family.. :)

honestly.. theyre ur family, and family is all about support.. they should be happy that ur happy with her.. forget their reasons for not likn her.. it shouldnt even be important to you! if they feel like ur happiness isnt important, then their opinions shouldnt matter.. you should tell them that.. shes your girlfriend, and you love her.. just don’t isolate urself from family.. but when they begin talkn about her, you need to step up and ask them to drop it, because its very disrespectful and unnecessary.. or when you see theyre treating her bad, you tell them nicely to back off.. lol. you should care less about what they think.. its you and your girl.. not you, your girl and the rest of ur family.. :)

Ignore it all I’m a girlfriend I used too be in the smae place just stick too your’s and your girlfriend’s plans and stay strong through everything no matter how hard it seems time will only fix it

Since it’s only your mom and little sister who don’t like her, while the rest of your family DO like her…maybe staying at school would be the best way to go. You can’t “make” people change their views. Getting stressed about your relationship every month or two, rather than everyday might be something you can live with.

‘I want my family to be happy for me’

As harsh as this might sound, sometimes you cant have everything you want. Maybe if you just accept that they dont like your girlfriend and just agree to disagree, you might be able to get along better. That being said, they are not allowed to bad mouth her. So, try this, ‘You have a right to your opinion, but even if you dont like her, she deserves respect and I dont want to hear anything insulting about her’. And just let it go at that.

You cannot please them. Sometimes personalities just clash. If they are being intentionally cruel to her then you need to shield her from them. If you can afford it, live at school and just visit your family. Don’t feel guilty. This is your life and you can live it as you see fit.